Hi S.,
I have epilepsy, too. I've gone through the "not being able to drive for six months" thing twice now, and you're right, it really is difficult. If your meds are making you drowsy, definitely talk to your neurologist as soon as possible. There's no reason for you to have to feel that way - there are many epilepsy medications you can try. I went to see a neurologist who specializes in epilepsy, and she told me that the combination of the meds I'm taking at the levels I'm at won't hurt my body - but they can cause birth defects, so like you, I'd need to make some adjustments before I start thinking about having a baby. This won't be for another year or two...hopefully I won't have to go off meds completely, I don't know how you did it! My advice would be to go see a neurologist who specializes in epilepsy. It might be a good idea to talk to a counselor for a little while, too. I've gone through some depression linked partly to my epilepsy, and I wish I'd gone in to talk to someone sooner. At the time, my boss had me stressed enough that my hair was falling out...but I couldn't find a new job, because I couldn't drive at the time. I was able to get to work then because one of my co-workers actually lived in my apartment building, but if I went to a new company, I didn't know if I'd be able to get to work if I had another seizure. At one point, a group of counselors moved into an office about half a mile from my apartment, so I could walk or ride my bike down there once a week after work and it helped so much! Your insurance may not cover it very well, but even going in for a few sessions will help.
God's blessings to you and your family,
J.