Seeking Advice/tips on Sleep Regulation

Updated on July 14, 2008
D.K. asks from Albuquerque, NM
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Help!!!! Our 27-month-old son has his days and nights mixed up and is sleeping through the day; up all night with the exception of a nap. He has been cutting his molars which led us to this point. The pain kept getting worse and he kept staying up longer and longer every night. I don't know how to get him back on a regular schedule. I have tried everything I can think of -- from skipping naps to giving him Benadryl to help him sleep. If we skip a nap, the next time he goes to sleep, he treats it as a nap rather than sleeping longer or through the night. Benadryl just makes him hyper.

Fortunately, I am blessed to stay at home with him and can adjust my schedule to his; however, I would like to spend some time with my husband in the evenings and would also like our son to have outdoor activity during the day. We can't really go to the park and 3 a.m.

Please, any advice would be wonderful. As an aside, he sleeps in his own big boy bed, so I cannot put him in his crib and let him drift off to sleep eventually after he's cried for awhile. Thanks in advance for any tips!

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So What Happened?

Thanks to all for your advice and tips. I am pleased to report that our son is back to sleeping nights with a nice long afternoon nap. Despite all I tried to do to help him regulate, I had to let him self-regulate back to a normal schedule, which he did. Nothing I tried helped and it turned out to be a very long phase. So, the lesson learned here -- at least for me -- is that I need to believe in my intuition, stick it out and remember that most things are just phases. Thanks again to all for advice and guidance!

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D.W.

answers from Albuquerque on

I would recommend making his nap shorter and slowly adjust back to normal time. say by an hour a day. 1/2 shorter nap or earlier, then 1/2 hour change to when he goes to sleep - that will probably take about a week to get him to change, but it should work. We've had our share of kids being up in the middle of the night - they all went through it but adjusted back.

Also, if your son gets hyper from benadryl - mine did too - maybe give him a bit of coffee to see if that calms him - it worked for my kids believe it or not - so you might want to try. We used frapachinos - so, you never know.

Another thing is to just exhaust him during the day when he is up so that he has to rest - swimming is the best thing for that.

Hope that helps.

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D.S.

answers from Albuquerque on

You really didn't say what you do when he's up all night, but I'm hoping you're not up playing with him. I would simply not let him sleep but maybe 2 hours in the early afternoon (about 1 pm) and then put him to bed between 7 and 8 pm. If he gets up, simply walk him back to bed and tell him it's time for night night and just keep doing that. I don't know if you've ever watched Super Nanny, but she recommends tucking them in with hugs and kisses the first time. The second time he gets up, tell him it's time to go to sleep. All of the times after than, say nothing and just walk him back to bed. He may fuss and cry, but just keep at it. It could take hours but the point is to get it across to him that it's not his choice to be up or sleeping. It's yours. The time taken to do this routine will get shorter and shorter every night. Whatever you do, don't let him sleep all day and don't play with him at night when he's up. Good luck. (oh, by the way....please don't give a baby coffee like another post I saw here! Babies shouldn't be drinking coffee for God's sake!)

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J.F.

answers from Albuquerque on

Hi D. -

First of all, welcome to Albuquerque! Second of all, I have to say I was almost glad to hear your problem, as our son did the exact same thing and I had never heard of a child doing it and thought we were weird or something! I hated being up at 3:00 AM trying to entertain my son quietly while my husband slept, and never being able to do playdates during the day with the other mommies and their kids because mine was sleeping during the day! Anyway, what helped for me was to take him for a ride in the car and play a CD I put together of slow, soothing Raffi songs. He went to sleep every time. I know this seems like a nightmare right now, but it will soon pass - not as soon as you want, though, I'm sure! Good luck! I feel for you!

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E.B.

answers from Albuquerque on

My doctor recommended that to help set the circadean clock when our boys were babies, to take them outside during the day for at least 15 minutes a day. They DO have to be awake, so if there is any time during the day when he is awake, get him outside. I did that, and it definitely helped to get their bodies "reset" to be awake during the day and let them sleep at night. Also, when he does sleep during the day, don't be quiet or close the blinds. Add that to the other advice you are getting and you should be able to work him back around to his normal schedule.
Also-instead of benydryl, try children's advil for the pain-I know that helps my boys sleep when the teething pain gets too bad.
Best of luck to you!

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