Seeking a Mother's Group or MDO

search MOPS with your zipcode. "Moms Of PreSchoolers" - they're church-based, but you don't have to be a member of any church to join MOPS. Some meet once a week, some meet once a month. Some cost very little to join, others are pricey. I LOVE going once a month to my MOPS group. I get 2 hours of adult-lady-mom-time, and my son gets 2 hours of play, learn, craft and socialization/teacher instruction time. Check it out. It's normally at 9 or 10am.

Town library, rec department might have mother's group, meetup.com, church, join the Y.

Nine months and 14 year old --wow. The 14 year old can be in sports--that way you can meet the team moms. The 9 month old is too young to know what it is to have playmates.

If you are in a church, all of the family can find a social circle there.

Looks for a MOMS group.

http://www.momsclub.org/

I bet they have one in your area.

9 months is a tough age to meet other moms. Do you belong to a church? Some churches have a mom's group. Also, some offer babysitting during services, and that might be another way to meet moms with kids the same age.

For me, it got so much easier when my son was about 18 months, because we could begin to take classes together at the YMCA and the park district. We met a few moms that way.

I think socializing is always a great idea, but I wouldn't worry about your son just yet. It would be great for him to be around other kids his age, but it really won't hurt him if you can't make that happen for awhile. When my oldest was 9 months, I was the one that needed to socialize. I thought I was going to go mad, since it was always just the two of us. Aaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!! Once he was old enough to take classes, life got so much easier. I had other adults to talk to! It was great!!!

Good luck!