Screaming One Year Old

Updated on October 21, 2007
M.N. asks from Geneva, IL
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My neice is at our house today and I love her very much but....... she yells and screams. We thought it was a phase but it has kept ging. many of my riends have one year olds that don't do it. I understand "finding your voice" but she has found it and it's giving me an incredible headache. Currently, when she does it I ignore her. Has anyone else had this with there one year old?

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Ok she went back home. I have friends that have five kids and some that have one and all of them have made comments on her screaming. The sound is so incredibly piercing. I really think that she is such a smart little girl that she easily gets bored. My family room is not baby proofed yet so she grabbed curtains and a bunch of other stuff down. so I think my husband and I will be baby proofing this weekend for her future visits:) We tried doing the inside outside voice thing but she doesn't care so we just ignore her when she screams inside the house. Thank you for all of your help. I just put my little one down so I'm going to take my much needed headache taking away nap. Tomm we are watching my 4 year old nephew!

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D.G.

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I do understand 1st hand about a screaming little one! My daughter is 15months old and I watched as she developed her scream. My 4yr old son helped and coached her as she discovered it! I didn't realize at the time how she would use her knew talent or how annoying it would be! She found that people react to it and uses it for everything comunication, out of frustration, and entertainment! The only thing that has helped is trying to teach her words or other actions to let us know what she wants. Sometimes we'd get right in her face and say firmly "No screaming" sit her down and walk away. She doesn't do it as often but it still happens now she enjoys the attention she gets from saying please, thank you, and no. She now stomps her feet so who knows what's next!!

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B.B.

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Hi M.,
My nephew is now 11 years old. We also had this problem. Has your sister had her checked for autism and hearing problems? one or a combination of both can cause this. My nephew had to have tubes put in his ears and was declared autustic. B.

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N.D.

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When my daughter was 1 years old she did the same thing, esp since she did not know many words.

It's a phase, and she will grow out if it. You are doing the right thing by ignoring her. If you give her attention (negative or positive) when she screams (all toddlers love attention...) then she may be encouraged to continue.

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M.D.

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Ha ha. Sorry to laugh but this sounds like the majority of one year olds I know! Yelling, pulling on things--in general just going crazy with energy.

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T.H.

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Sounds like mom and dad have let this become an acceptable behavior... It's hard to discipline someone that you don't see everyday, but one tactic may be to explain to her when she's calm that screaming and yelling are against the rules in your house. Then when she does it, say you can't understand her becuase your ears hurt and if she tells you in a nice voice that she can be heard. My kids whine (which is just as grating) and lately if I make a funny face and grab my head and say "oowww" like my head hurts, they then use a normal voice and we can communicate. She's kinda young so this may not work, and you'll have to do it a million times before you see any change. I think you should also talk to her p's and have them work on it too. Good luck to you!

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K.C.

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Try asking http://www.a-mommys-world.com/chat.php there are a log of mom's there that might be able to help you out....I'm usually there but tonight I promissed my kids to go out for dinner

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V.E.

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My daughter is and was the same way. First ,I would suggest having her hearing checked.If no trouble there...then it is up to you to CONSTANTLY remind them to turn down the volume. Quiet voice or volume control is what I usse, but my daughter is now 3.I also talk very lightly to show her you can hear without YELLING! Take her to the library and get books about using your quiet voice, when and where appropriate! That is what has helped with my daughter. Good luck! I also originally tried to ignore, but that doesnt teach her to STOP screaming!! I dont think they are aware of how loud they are??

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C.

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All I can really say is take a tylenol for the headache and remind yourself that she is just one year old. As you alluded to and as somebody else mentioned, it is very common because they cannot communicate very effectively with words yet, so screaming is one way that they find gets a message across. Responding calmly with a quiet voice and a finger over the lips saying "quieter voice please" helps to remind kids when they are being too loud, especially if that becomes a consistent reminder. Though, I also am an advocate that kids do need time to be loud. I often would find people telling kids to be quiet outside on a playground as if they are to use an inside voice while outside. To me, a playground is where it is surely appropriate for them to yell and play all they want and explore that loud voice they all love to make or at times inside when nobody is napping I think they should be able to play loud games and what not as it is part of being a child and exploring their world. It seems like not until elementary school (and even then they forget), do they really have the distinction from when they are being loud vs. a regular voice. I joke that there are two sound levels with the kids...loud and sleeping. :) With your daughter being just 12 weeks old, don't be surprised if she's the same way when she gets to be that age. Having worked with kids and their parents for years, it's amazing how often parents are driven crazy by a developmentally appropriate characteristic of another child, come to find their child develops the very same trait. As annoying as some of the toddler traits can be, I've seen a lot of feet in the mouth that way between things like biting, hitting, thumb sucking, whining, etc. Kids will be kids, so hang in there, it's a phase that will lessen and lessen as she develops a bigger vocabulary, though it does take a while, but you'll have relief when she goes back home. :)

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A.W.

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Cover her mouth and firmly tell her, No yelling. She'll eventually get it. :)

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