School Issue

Can you go in and have lunch with her? I know my school welcomes the parents anytime. I often as I can (I work full time) go and have lunch with my little ones. I have 1 and 2nd grader. Then you can see friends and help her transition. You can also help in the classroom. And help her. Ask her about kids in the class by name, ask who she played with in recess. Maybe have some kids over for playdates to help her make friends. And yes, talk to the teacher, he/she can help your daugther participate, and keep an eye on her. Good luck!

Honestly, make an appointment to talk to her teacher. You cannot just grab her in the morning or afternoon.....call the school and make an appointment! She will have invaluable observations and maybe some insight as to why your daughter doesn't 'like' school. Best of luck.

A.:

Hello! I'm truly sorry to hear you are going through this.

She's 5 years old and can talk. Ask her why she doesn't like it. Ask questions like - how was your class today? how was your teacher today? what subject do you like best?

My Kindergartener LOVED his class. It was 1st grade that he hated - it took me 3 months - i know a LONG time to ask the RIGHT questions and we actually role-played his class-room day and I found out what it was. It was his teacher - she sucked. No kidding - she shouldn't be teaching young children (and yes, I told her so to her face and told her that I will be watching, listening and active and I spoke with the principal and the superintendent but I was the only parent with enough balls to complain all the other parents were worried about retribution).

Role-playing school with her might be a good idea.

I hope you don't have the same problem I had, I hope it's just an adjustment for her being away from you.

Best regards,

Cheryl

Was there something specific about her school day that troubled her? Another child? Make sure you keep close tabs her first few school years...talk to her teacher, see what might be troubling her..

Good luck!

First you need to ask your daughter about school. Ask questions she can answer in one or two words and then just wait for her to continue. Something like, "Did you color today? Who did you play with at recess? Who did you sit with at snack time? What was the number of the day today?" Think of easy to answer questions to ask. Then, the conversations will flow and you can get a real feel for what is going on in the classroom.

If she missed you, that's normal. I used to send something special in the backpack that they had to leave inside the backpack. When they looked at their cubbie or their backpack, they would remember what's inside and know that I was thinking about them. I also put a note inside their lunch that they could read...

All of our teachers have email. Send her an email telling her that you are concerned. She will respond. If she doesn't, you want to make an appointment.

Good luck!
LBC

You don't really give enough information. Why didn't she like it. Bored, didn't like being away from you, wanted to be home for some reason. Why?
Next if i had that trouble with my 6yr old i would ask her alot of questions about what she did while she was there. If you make yourself interested in school she will be more interested. I prepped my daughter from baby hood all the great things about school. All children go to school and how much she will learn. How much fun it is being in school with friends.

ok, so she doesnt like kindegarden, not many kids do.
i know i didnt. and lunch period was so loud you couldnt
hear yourself think. but, instead of encouraging her
to introvert, like a lot of little girls do, encourage her to make at least one friend.and no it doesnt have to be one
of those smelly boys. anxiety is probably what made her toss her cookies to begin with. but it wouldnt hurt to check and make sure she isnt being picked on or bullied, which also could be causing her to be anxious about being in school pressure to fit in, while excluding other children who dont quite fit in.. can start as early as kindergarden unforunately
K. h.

Hi A.,
Starting school for a 5 year old can be a rough transition. Try to help her to relax and understand why things are different from her daycare. Explain to her why the recess time is shorter than at the daycare. Help her not to feel embarrassed about getting sick in class.

Ask her what would make her more comfortable during the time she is at school. Things like taking her own lunch (if she isn't doing that now). You can put little pictures in her lunch box to help take her focus off of the noise. Ask her if she has a friend that she can sit beside during lunch. I know sometimes they may have assigned seating.

When she comes home, talk about her day and help her to see the positive sides of being in school.

A lot of her issues are simply adjusting to a new environment. In time she will seem happier.

For the time being, pay close attention to her. Just to make sure that things are getting better and not worse.