I'm a happy, proud sahm and am very "relaxed" in my style, but that's how I was before we were married too. However, I think too many women seem to forget that being a sahm IS their actual JOB. Take some pride in it, in yourself, and ACT like it's your job! I get up 10 minutes earlier than my husband and get the baby's diaper changed and give him a bottle, jump in for a quick shower, then I brush my hair and put it back (infant is STRONG and loves to pull hair), brush my teeth and use mouthwash, put on just a tiny bit of base, a spritz of body spray, but that's it. We're not one of those "wife is the servant" families at all: my husband's the last out of the bed so he makes it, and he cleans up after himself in the bathroom when he's finished getting ready for work. We do our morning routine together, but when he leaves for work, I feel like I have started my work day too! I used flylady.com for ideas on how to make my own weekly AND daily schedules, making sure everything gets done in the week (everything from bill paying, to errands, basic chores/cleaning, all meals cooked, menus and shopping lists prepared, we do preschool time 3x/day with my son---playing, but learning at the same time, exercise at the gym, etc). I don't dress in anything special, but it's always clean and always decent to go out in: tshirts or blouses; jeans or capris....if it's the wrong time of the month and i'm feeling blech i may wear looser fitting, more comfortable pants, but still something i wouldn't be embarassed to go to the gym or store in. flylady.com strongly suggests getting dressed, even shoes, everyday. i don't wear shoes because of the baby who's learning to crawl (i don't like shoes on in the house to track in things---they go on a shoe rack by the door), but i dress all the way to socks and take the idea to heart. i think that wearing frumpy clothes can cause you to feel like a frump, act like a frump, and honestly, be kinda lazy. you don't have to wear makeup and jewelry, but get clean, dressed, and have something to do everyday, to look forward to and work towards. take pride in your job, and in yourself! have fun!