Sad Dr. Appt.

Oh C., I know you're feeling sad right now. It's tough to want and feel ready for a baby, and to find out it's not so. I'm going to share a couple of things with you. First, you are so blessed that you didn't have a tubal. Point being, your situation right now could be really bad, rather than really sad. Sweetie, you are so young, and such a newlywed. This is a very special, sweet chapter in you and your hubbys lives. Relax. Enjoy it. Enjoy him, and the time you have alone together. You are free as a bird right now!! Live it up, don't waste it away longing for the next chapter. It will come. Your baby will come, and being 21 years old, you have SO much time!!!!! Once that baby does come, the next chapter begins. And you never, ever get to go back. Now, I'm not saying the kid chapter is bad, but it is the end of the first chapter. I had my oldest child when I met my hubby. Many many times I wish we'd had some time to just be him and I. So sweet girl, embrace this wonderful time in your life. And you know, if you spend "special love" time with the hubby, and just enjoy it for what is is, and RELAX, you'll probably be pregnant before you know it!!!! Stressing and worrying only makes it drag on longer!!!! You and the doc will figure out what's going on, get it straightened out, and that's that!!

Keep your little chin up. Enjoy your blessings. Have some faith, God has a plan for you, just let it unfold. Never waste today longing for tomorrow!!!!!!

Good luck to you!!

*****big hugs*********

Wow, your story brings back memories. I was 21 and married for a year when I got my first positive pregnancy test. My husband was 26 and we had not been trying to get pregnant, but I had always dreamed of it. I went to the doctor and while I had been pregnant, they could find no baby. I didnt have a D and C, I just waited for everything to pass. I ended up having pcos (polycystic ovarian syndrome) which makes you not have periods and makes it harder to get pregnant. I got pregnant again when I was 24 and lost that baby at 10 weeks also. I tried my best just to make it day by day. I got pregnant again when I was 25 and we now have a beautiful 2 year old girl. I am able to stay home with her and am enjoying being a mom. Babies do take a lot of time out of marriage so like the other posts, right now concentrate on just being married. It will go by so fast and before you know it you will have a sweet little baby. I hope everything goes well for you and God Bless.

I'm sorry. Such a disappointing day for you. And now you undoubtedly have to tell family members that there isn't a pregnancy after all... Oh, how heartbreaking!

If it makes things any easier, I will add that I once got a false positive home pregnancy test result. My doc said it was because I had a cyst on my ovary... that a cyst can produce chemicals that trick the test.

I totally agree with Momma B below, that you should try to focus on the honeymoon phase of your marriage. Use this time to make things stronger, to save some money... Because, honestly, the first 18 months after our daughter was born was stressful on my marriage. We needed the memories of when it was just the 2 of us to help carry us over those sleep deprived, grumpy nights! And golly, babies are so expensive! It will be so much harder to save money for your nest egg once you have a baby to feed, diaper, clothe, and medicate... and I didn't even mention childcare costs in that list.

Focus on getting healthy, finding out what's going on with your reproductive system. Things will work out.

My sister-in-law was trying concieve ever since they got married. Over 5 years went by and her doctor finally put her on clomid and now she has 6 year old boy and are trying for #2. Just hang in there. It will happen. In the meantime enjoy the time with your husband because once you have a baby its harder to do those things!

Dear Heart! I know it's so hard dealing with such a great disappointment after having become so excited. Please know you are supported! I will pray that your hearts will be comforted. Take your time to heal, and know that your many feelings are normal and necessary~ Sending love!

Others have said wonderful things so I will just add. Everything happens for a reason and there is a reason for everything. God is in control! Enjoy your time with your husband and the rest will take place at the appropriate time.
God Bless and Merry Christmas.