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tattoo parties are not illegal ... there are still things that need to be followed and paperwork that needs to be filled out. If those things are not done then it is illegal but many people have tattoo shops out of their own home or travel to people's homes for comfort/conveinece sake.

Not sure that a lack of proper patio furniture indicates or proves drug addiction.

I don't know what the law says but if they are licensed tattoo artists, there are rules they have to follow. I have heard of tattoo parties...some are licensed and some are not. I don't see the problem...unless they are tattooing minors or there are illegal things going on (drinking/drugs etc).

If the boy has 18 absences, the school must know and therefore so should truancy. You shouldn't have to tell them but it is ok for Dad to ask them to intervene if he can't get the boy's mom to be responsible.

As for the couch, tacky but not a crime. Why would you even take a picture of that?

not sure what the tattooing has to do with truancy.

I dont think the tattooing is a big deal, unless they are tattooing the boy. My husband got a tattoo at someones house before, a local artist was hanging out and had time on his hands and his equipment in the car. He gave him a really nice intricate tattoo for fun.

The truancy is a big deal if he is just playing hooky, but that may be hard to prove. Some kids get sick and parents will keep them out of school for the duration that they consider them infectious. Which is actually responsible.

As far as the couch on her patio, not the best, but i have a dining table and chairs on my patio. I like it, even though it may not be technically meant for outside. I wouldnt put a couch outside, but thats really just a matter of perspective.

Two words - Step Mom. It is your husbands place to take care of this, not yours. I hope you don't talk bad about her in front of thier son, that won't score any points for you. I know it can be really hard, I am a step mom too. Lots of people do things around their kids that I would not do and I am sure I do things around mine that others would never do, it is all about what you are in to or are not in to. What does your husband feel about all of this? You need to be talking to him, you have at least 13 more years of dealing with the mom.

Really it's up to your husband to deal with his son's mother. Let him figure out exactly what he wants to happen as far as his relationship with his son and just be there to support him. Since you don't know the tattoo situation (could have been a friend just starting out in the business and is doing it free just for the practice) adding it into a court case just makes you look like you are going out of your way to make the ex look bad. Same with a couch on the front porch.

The courts know that not everyone is perfect so they are more interested in seeing who has the child's best interest in mind. Not sending him to 18 days of school in kindergarden may or may not be an issue. If he isn't performing up to the other kids in his grade level then there's a problem. The more facts and data your hubby sticks with the better he'll be when it comes to dealing in court.

As long as she isn't a licensed tattoo shop and these are amatures giving each other tattoos, then no, it isn't illegal. It's be like a non-professional person giving someone a haircut as a favor. No problem. Honestly, let his father deal with her.

If she is running a tattoo business out of her home, then yes it is against the health regulation laws and is illegal. It's a health code violation to not run a tattoo parlor without the proper permits and such and regular inspections that are required by them. However, you have to prove that people are profiting from doing it and/or a business is being run. Otherwise, I don't think it's technically illegal for people to decide to give each other tattoos in the privacy of their home. Check with a lawyer for sure, but really tattoos are only regulated on the business side of things so if there is no "business" then you probably don't have much.

As far as the truancy thing, depending on where he goes to school, it is not shocking. I had a kid who I worked with who refused to go to school because of rival gang issues. He missed school for 3 months. The school not only didn't refer him to truancy (I did), but they also "kept forgetting" to refer him to an alternative program, although he was supposed to be after two months, which is what he wanted. Then the district didn't want to put him in the alternative program when I finally advocated for him to get placed in a different school so he would start going again. Everytime I went up there for those three months they kept telling me what they were going to do because of all his missed days and yet I'm the one who eventually got it done. So some schools are worthless. Also, are you sure she didn't provide him with an excuse for the school? Cause if she did (even if he wasn't really sick and she just said that he was so she wouldn't have to take him) then it is excused and doesn't get counted against for truanch purposes, which means no referral!

I don't think most states have laws against getting tattoos in a home. As long as they were using standard precautions and cleaning/sterilizing the instruments or using new ones each time - what is the big deal?

People are treated for major illnesses, chemo treatments, daily IVs and such in their homes... I don't see the big difference.

Document, document, document.
Did you take pictures? You could have played that one off, Oh let me show that to my hubby, then taken it to the police.
It might take a bit for truancy officers to get their case together. THey have to have proof, maybe.