Rumors_ Regarding My Son's Ex-girlfriend Being Prego

Hi D.!

This must be a very difficult time for you and your son. The truth is he will always be connected to this girl if she has the baby and keeps it. You said he is a good boy and so I'm sure he'll be responsible for his actions.

I do want to let you know that adoption is an amazing option for these kids. We are adoptive parents of a 2 1/2 year old little girl and are looking for another child to adopt. You can let your son and his girlfriend know about us or I can connect you to other people who are also looking.

Here is our adoption website:

www.myspace.com/shannontobyteddy

If your son isn't ready to be a father yet, this is a tremendous opportunity for others to create a family.

Best,

S.

I would definately look into seeing if there is a way to tell if it is his or not ASAP. I know there are so many advances in medicine I have heard that there are ways. Call your own OB to check it out. That way you know if you should have involvement and keep up to date on the pregnancy or let it go. If it is your son's and if she is going to keep it then your is going to have to be a daddy. You need to have a conversation with your son about what he wants to do to be a daddy for this baby. Make a plan with him as far as financial situation and also custody. Things have definatly changed and daddys that are willing have lots of contact and time with their kids even if they are young. How old is the girl? If she is your sons age (or younger) maybe it would be a good idea to have a conversation about adoption. Either way as hard as it may be you, your son, her, and her parents should have a conversation. No finger pointing or blame game, just where do we go from here. Good luck!

hummm...

i would definatley ask your son if he is SURE 100% that it is a possibility that the child she is carrying is his.
three little letters can help with that

D N A

i dunno if there is a way they could do that before hand, maybe with an amneosyntesis??

i say have him emotionally support the BABY....
just be there for him... and dont forget to breathe..lol

Dear D., my heart and prayer go out to you and your family. As a mother of 5 kids and also had my first baby when i was 17 i was terrified and confied in my mother, like you she understood and stood by my side in every which way. Mind you I was the girl so it was different but you are doing great in supporting your son. I guess being the guy you REALLY can't do anything until the baby is born and especially if your son does not want to be part of this girls life. But like you said he needs to UNDERSTAND that if he IS the father than at that point he needs to be part of the babies life and he should. It is sad that he has no say in this at all because she is going to do what ever she wants. But hang in there and try to be there for him in every which way. I guess he will be growing up faster than we would like right? Take care and please keep us updated on your situation and mamasource is here to just listen if you want.

D.,

Be supportive to your son but also help him understand that if the child ends up being his that he too will need to be supportive of that child...

A paternity test will be wise...

But also, if you as a parent maybe meet with her parent(s) that will also show them that your son comes from a good family too... remember what is done is done and there's no going back but if the child ends up his then you also should start that relationship with her parents as you will want to be involved in the upbringing of that grandchild and you having experienced the mother only situation know first hand that all the help you can give will be best for the baby...

Again, take it day by day, and show your support... of course, it is a very hard thing to do when the 2 parents (teens) will no longer be together...

Good luck and prayer is best...

I was in a similar situation when I was pregnant but my ex and I were dating for almost a year before we got pregnant. His parents immediately said it couldn't be their son's baby,I asked why would they think it ws someone else's especially after they repeatedly asked my mother to allow me to spend the night when we would go to family outtings I was only 15 years old ...but in the end when my mother who is also a single parent and my grandfather went to speak to his parents they admitted - the mother said she knows it was her son's baby but the father said he would prefer that his son have many girlfriends....my point is - you and your son need to speak to her and her parents and talk out the situation...and express your concerns- feel for the truth if she slept with your son and only 1 week later she was pregnant -that is nearly impossible...most times it takes at least 3-6 weeks after sex to think you are pregnant before confirming it....perhaps she is afraid to admit there was someone else before your son....never the less still sit down with her and her parents and your son to talk out this situation....you dont want him to commit to a child that may not be his nor negelct his responsibility by ignoring the situation.....they dont have to be together to have this baby and if its his baby he does need to be there for his baby....I wish you lots of love & will keep you and your son in my prayers....