I have come to you before and have gotten some wonderful advice and I am back again!!! I attemptem to potty train my wonderful and very stubborn 3.5 year old about a month ago. He did great days 1-3, day 4 even pooped in the potty!! We have sticker charts, gummies, potty dance song when he was successful. The 4th afternoon he decided to go on stike and hold his pee in. Long story short day 6 I gave up, taking him into the urgent care thinking he had a UTI because he said it hurt to pee after holding it for hours and hours (more then 10!) he was having accidents because he just couldnt hold it in anymore, he ended up not having a UTI at all according to us urinalysis. I work full time, and on weekends and at home he will tell me "mom, I have to pee, can I pee in my diaper??" same with poop. He knows when he has to go for both. When I tell him "you know where the potty is" he says "no, I like my diapers, I want to pee/poop in them, not the toilet". I have not yet figured out a big reward for when he is potty trainined becuase we will bring the subject up and he will say "No, I dont want that, I want to have my diapers" there is nothing he really really wants. He also says he doesnt want to be a big boy. All of his friends at school have moved into another classroom, and he is stuck with 3 children who have just turned 2 years old so he no longer has someone that is trying to train at this time, I love his school and really dont want to switch him. He will not be allowed into the 3 year old classroom until he is completely trained-naps too! I am going to have a meeting with the teachers at school tomorrow to get them on the same page as I am, and I have decided that we would attempt again and try no undies next weekend. Am I forcing the issue or not? Do I just wait around for him to take the diapers off or continue? I know everyone says wait until they are ready, but what do you do with a child that says they dont want to grow up??? This is the only 3 day weekend left for me till April. Help please! We have both the potty seat that goes on the big toilet and a small potty too, we have read books to him, had dad go to show him, asked his cousin that he looks up to to take him and nothing seems to work. He even picked ou tthe big boy undies last time we tried.
I waited for 3 weeks to try again-and 6 days in he is doing amazing!!! He gave us a hard time putting the undies on, but he hasnt looked back since! No accidents except for at night which is to be expected! Keep trying mamas because when they are ready, its pretty amazing!
In my opinion they won't go until they are ready. Back off for now and give it a week or two. Then try again.
Unfortnately, it is a control thing on your son's part. If he is in Daycare why on earth are they holding him back in the classroom? He should be in with kids his age. I have no doubt that if he were to see the other kids going on the potty that eventually he will get sick of being the only one in a diaper.
Do you make accessing the potty easy? Meaning a step stool and ring to fit on top of the toilet so he won't fall through?
While it may create a mess, you could put him in big boy pants and if he has an accident is old enough to change himself if it happens. We had to work with my daughter as she had some regression when her younger brother was born but finally saw all the other little girls with their panties and one day the "switch" flipped on and her diaper days were over. At night a different story.
My son showed interest and would go from time to time but since we still have #3 as a baby I have not pushed the issue. Our daycare provider said she was going to help us potty train him. I said good luck. Her trick was to not put on underwear or a diaper under his pants....He hated it!! We empowered him to pick out his own big boy pants at the store and he was hooked. One month to the day he turned three. Go figure.
You can try that way too...I highly doubt your son wants to sit in a wet mess...Believe me I understand where you are coming from. He'll do it when he is ready.
Let him throw the diapers in the trash himself and take him to the store to pick out his very special boy themed undies. Once he sees that the diapers are gone, he will have no choice but to go on the potty. I would think that only be exposed to 2 yr olds (what 8-9 hrs per day?) would have him regressing. That's pretty normal for kids, even those with just a new baby at home. I know it's hard, but this weekend you really need to stay home as much as possible, turn on the kitchen timer for every 20 mins, and when it goes off, sit him on the potty. Repeating the process will make it a habit and he should start feeling more confident about it. Hold your tongue when he has an accident but make a HUGE deal about it when he goes in the potty. You'll see results, momma! =)
I would put him in underwear and just tell him you are done with diapers. He will likely have a few accidents and decide they are unpleasant. We did not do sticker charts/rewards or anything like that with DS. We just told him (25 months) that pee and poop go in the toilet. And acted happy when he seemed excited when he went. We did not emphasize the 'big boy' thing at all. This wait until they are ready thing is very specifically a US thing, most kids in other countries are trained way earlier. American kids used to be trained on average at 18 months before there were disposables. Does he know he cannot be in the 3 year old room until he is wearing underwear?
