This is my first time on this site. From what I see, nobody has responded to your message...if somebody has, forgive me if I repeat what they say.
First of all, let me tell you that I was diagnosed with ADD about a year and a half ago...so I know where you are coming from...
I really hope that you have tried medication to treat the ADD, if not, you are spinning your wheels.
Medication is not the easy solution...there are side effects, emotional rollercoasters, ones that work for awhile then stop, there are ones that don't work, etc...but, once you find what works for you, you might find that the effects can be nothing short of a miracle...but it takes time.
My house is slowly becoming organized (what a thrill). I can look at a cluttered book shelf or closet and not feel daunted by the task. I can feel a sense of accomplishment by spending a half an hour in my basement and bam, I have a pile of garbage to toss, I placed all the craft paint in one container, the tape in another, the fabric in another. Packing takes me a 10th of the time it used to. I don't constantly lose my keys and credit cards, I'm recognizing my limitations. I'm feeling a lot more intelligent and in control.
Last night, as I was going through all the stuff in my garage and thinking what a shame it was that I wasn't diagnosed earilier. All the angst I could have spared myself and my husband had I known.
The good news is that now I do know, now I'm on medication, and now all that junk is being organized or tossed without the huge cloud of anxiety.
Good luck, B.!
And remember, being unorganized does not make you a bad person. It just makes you an unorganized person...and in the scope of things, that's not so aweful.
Jenn