Hi, my DD daughter has been potty trained for almost a year. She would do both with no problems. Well for at least the past month she has been having poo accidents all day almost everyday. I started over with the sticker chart and the rewards.I even made her jar that's for her "potty money" she gets a quarter every time she goes. We sing,read and blow bubbles while sitting on the potty. She knows when she has to go because she goes and hides to do it. Every once in a while she will go in the potty and when she does we make a big deal so in hopes that she will keep doing it. We have had no major changes in the family or anything like that. I feel like she just decided she just didn't want to go anymore! Any suggestions would be great. Thanks in advance
*update- I wanted to thank you for all of your advice.It seems that I am doing everything that can be done. Yesterday and today we have had no accidents and to good bm's in the potty. I'm just going to keep doing what I have been and be patient!! Thanks so much. Good luck to those who are dealing with potty issues as well!! Keep up the great advice!
I have never experienced this with my children, but maybe having her clean up after herself might help. When she takes complete responsibility for it she may decide it's easier to poop in the potty instead of in her pants. Good Luck!
Your post doesn't say what form of DD your child is experiencing or whether a doctor has evaluated her for any physical causes. My daughter has PDD-NOS and had toilet training issues. Many "typically developing" children have short periods of regression overlooked by the parents. Developmentally delayed children also might regress, but the process of regaining lost skills takes a little longer. My pediatrician promised me that my daughter would not go to college in diapers! By age 4 1/2, all the toileting issues had resolved themselves. Continue to use positive reinforcements to encourage her, but give it a little time. Good luck!
i have been setting here reading your problem tring to think of what might be the problem. one are you trying to potty train the brother on her potty chair? two i think you need a reward system she is more likekly to underestand somekind of child treat like a toy or cookie or m&m she is too young to relaize the value of the money , maybe her poop has changed and is easeri to do standingup is she getting enough fiber? i do not know if these help but i am hopeful for you. one of my newphews at the age of 4 wanted to save his poop not see it go by by in the toilet, so he kept pooping in his pant to keep it and lie to mom that he didi not poop in them , the thinks kids come up with to think, good luck grandmother of 2 and mother of 2 R.
I agree with other posts that say your daughter may have had a bad potty experience (that you didn't know about) and is now afraid to go. Her reaction and embarrassment (hiding) seem to suggest it.
Another option is she sees her brother not using the potty yet and decided it was a good way to get attention, be more like him, etc. Sometimes child logic doesn't make sense to us grownups!
If she can, try and get Grace to tell you why she doesn't want to go on the toilet anymore. Make sure it's a casual conversation, not right before or right after an accident. Maybe enlist the help of a favorite stuffed animal. Then you can address the problem and work together on a solution.
Good Luck :)
My daughter is going through the same thing except she is peeing on herself instead of pooing. I took her to the doc thinking it may be a urinary tract infection but it came out clean. She also has a brother close to her in age, they are a yr and 8 days apart. He is starting to make progress in wanting to go potty and she is regressing. I don't know why, but they do that. If you get any good advice please pass it my way.
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Another option is that some children develope a fear of the toilet or of going potty. Some children fear they are losing a peice of themselves down the toilet and not understanding how the toilet works and why they need to poop may exacerbate the fear. Try explaining how the toilet works, why we ned to poop. Let her flush some toilet paper down and watch it as it goes. Maybe this will help. Her pediatrician may have some more ideas.
One other note, you never want to ridicule a child for this type of behavior, that will only make it worse. (What a horrible way to train your child!) Usually this is a sign of some other issue and since children of this age are not that great at communicating their feelings they exhibit it in their actions.
Hang in there, I am sure this is just a temporary set back!
Unfortuantely kids do this at their own pace. Ridicule her. tell her how stinky it is..it might help. giving her a hard time instead of rewards, thats how my daughter got trained. she was tired of getting in trouble..
My son is about to turn 4 yrs in June and he is doing the same thing. Not only at home, but also at his preschool. Well, he will only have wet accidents at school from time to time, but at home it is both. While at home I am wondering if he is too busy playing with his sister (also close in age, she is 5 yrs old - 15 months apart.) and doesn't want to stop playing to use the bathroom. He will wait until the very last minute to say he needs to go potty and then when he gets to the bathroom it is too late. After reading another response to your question...maybe this is a common phase with a child about to turn 4 with a sibling close in age? I am not sure....I am just riding it out and I really hope it's a phase that will stop soon! Good luck to the both of us!
Sometimes they do this if they have a particulary hard one while on the potty. It hurts and scares them so they think if they avoid the potty and try to keep from pooping for awhile, then maybe it won't hurt as much. But of course their body does not listen and they poop anyway....just not in the toilet.
Get a little tiny bit of mineral oil--after you have okayed this by her doctor of course. Put it in her drink or just give it to her on a spoon. It is fairly tasteless and clear.
It will soften the stool, make her go more often, and give her bottom time to heal from the earlier experience.
My youngest got so bad he would cry with each bm. He was almost a year old and I had switched to formula. The pediatrician was not worried. I researched and found out my SIL pediatrician had her do this with her child when he was crying from hard bm's. It worked like a charm for both of us. ;-)
