D.O.
Hi J.,
Your daughter is very smart: she figured there is a change coming in her life. You are going back to work, and she does not like it!
What does the nanny say? Is she confident? Does she have such experiences? Can she reassure you she will handle it? If she does - let her take charge. Go to work, and the nanny will take care of your child. Of course your child need to be consoled. She is sad you are not going to be with her in the same way she is used to. She can not say it, so she acts it. I am sure it is hard on you as well, and that you need a way to express your feelings, too. This is all a normal part of separation when going back to work.
It is also possible your nanny is young and inexperienced, and cannot reassure you. You need to decide if you can train her, or you need another nanny.
You are going to be ok!
D. Orr
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