K.B.
Hi, I am also having surgery in a few weeks to repair damage from the birth of my last baby (I have an 8 year old and a 14 month old). I am dealing with this by arranging for plenty of help. In addition to my husband (a SAHD), my sister-in-law is flying in to help for the first couple of weeks. My husband is great, but he gets tired and I want to make sure there is someone who could give him breaks and could pick up, hold, carry, and otherwise take care of the baby while I won't be allowed to. This also gives me another woman in the house who can relate to my recovery.... We also have friends who will be coming by and helping as needed (like taking our older child to her after-school activities), plus I have a trusted babysitter on stand-by. It's still a couple of weeks out, but I'm confident that getting plenty of good help is key to both your (our?) recovery and the well-being of the kids. Good luck!!!