After much heartache and struggling, my husband and I are agreed that it is time to get a divorce. However, I am concerned that he may try to be spiteful and vindictive in the process. Has anyone been through this that can give me some much-needed advice? I don't know where to begin. I am overwhelmed with the whole idea. And I am really worried that financially I won't be able to do this. We already struggle to pay the bills as it is. My main concern is that my son have as little change as possible. Does anyone know of a particularly good lawyer who specializes in divorce from the woman's point of view? I have seen friends go through this with bad lawyers and I want to avoid that added stress. I only want to be as fair as possible to my husband, but my son comes first and I will do what I have to do in order to keep his world as stable as possible. Thanks in advance for any advice you may have.
Thanks to all of you for your kind words and advice. I am new to this site, but I love it and I am so happy to have this community to share mom-stuff as well as other stuff with. I am still working on a plan, but I feel much more at-ease after hearing from you all. Thanks again!
Unfortunately, I am going through the same thing. My lawyer is very "fatherly." He makes good suggestions. I also have the name and number of a few other if he doesn't work out for you...to include the name of my stbx's lawyer (LOL).
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Best,
K.
This is the attorney I used for my divorce. She is compassionate and trys to work with you. I recommend her highly. My positive thoughts go with you, this is a hard time.
Susanne K Henley, Esquire
Robin K Henley, Esquire (her son)
47 West Street
Annapolis, MD 21401
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First, remember that no divorce is a good thing so if you can salvage the marriage, try to do that thru going to counseling our thru an unbiased mutual friend.
But hold on for the ride if you do decide to go thru with the divorce. You will constantly hear people say get a good attorney. But really, what attorney do you know is NOT out there to make money? Try not to get an attorney involved until you know that the both of you will NOT agree on certain things because they will continue to work your pocketbook every tick of the second. Get a separation agreement and discuss it with a family attorney and get it filed in the courts. I got my separation agreement by searching the web and it became a legal document during my divorce. Be sure to talk to your husband about the custody arrangements. Will he willingly pay you child support? You can go to the web to see the formula for child support payments also. Get a schedule visitation document in place NOW. The divorce part is pretty fast if you both are in agreement to get one. I pray that you can work it out because it will affect your son in one way or another but he will adjust with time.
Hi M.,
I am a single mom of 3 boys. My husband and I separated 4 years ago. The divorce is still pending because he has me on his insurance. But I think this year will be the year. I don't know of any lawyers because I don't have one. I did want to offer some advice though. Try to remain friends with your husband. That will make the transition as smooth as possible. If he gets vindictive then go for counseling together if possible. Is it important to keep the lines of communication as open as possible. My ex and I still go to family functions together and to school functions together. We really talk about issues with the kids and try to see each other's point of view. It's hard to do sometimes - he is a micro manager. I am in counseling that helps me deal with these problems. She offers very good advice. I know money is tight for you. It's hard for me but I am making it. My ex has a hard time managing money - real hard time. That was one of the major problems in the marriage. So as far as counseling contact the local YWCA. They can usually offer it on a sliding scale or if you have insurance they will usually cover 40 visits per year. I wish you all the best. If you want to chat privately then email me at ____@____.com. I would be happy to be friend to help you through this difficult time.
J.
