Sadly my husband has moved out because he "needed space" and "needed to work on" himself. After being gone only one day I found the paper trail of an affair (with someone I know) and he finally has admitted it all to me. It's been incredibly shocking and horrible and more than I ever could have imagined. Bottom line is I need a really really good attorney as I have been the one to put him through school and support him, the household and the family, taking care of everything for the house and the baby. He has never contributed to anything and I don't want to wind up paying even more when it's all over and he's on an absolute spending spree. So if you have a great attorney, please let me know
I don't know of an attorney but I wanted you to know that I think you are very strong. Stay strong! You will get through this.
Sincerely,
S.
Hello
Hang in there girl...things only get better with time! Cheating is the worst thing ever, I've been through it and I have 3 girls. YOU CAN DO IT! The problem with being married and the husband not putting alot of effort into it is in the long run if there is a divorce and he hasn't worked alot, he can be entitled to spousal support and such things. Hopefully that isn't your situation. Sounds like your to good for him!
Knowing this person, that's even worse but from experience (and trust me when I say this) what goes around comes around and the grass is NOT greener on the other side, find someone better!
Once a cheater always a cheater!
Best of luck to you, I'm here if you need me!
Get a good book, there are so many because I know we start thinking it's our faulty but it's NOT!
Take care
K. R
Hi H.: Not sure if you found an attorney yet, but I have an Excellent one for you. He is one of the best if not the best family attorney around. I have known him since my daughter was 7 years old and she is now 24. He helped me and countless others (my friends) with child support, divorces etc... through the years and is a fine attorney. I couldnt say enough about him. Anyway, his name is:
Richard Early
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He is in the Northridge area but he is worth it.
Tell him V. Raza sent you.
He will work hard for you!
I too, would like to just wish you luck and strength to do what you feel is right for you and your baby. And please, don't ever blame yourself for this. It's is own weaknesses and insecurties that brought him to do this very selfish act. Good luck and be strong. That doesn't mean that your not aloud to have a good cry at times. It's good to do that too.
Hi H.,
I can recommend an excellent Family Law Attorney, who specializes in "dissolution law", as well...He is a longtime personal friend. His offices are in Encino, but I am sure the extra few miles will be worth it.
Benjamin Swartzman - an Encino, California (CA) Family Law Law FirmBenjamin Swartzman. Address: 15760 Ventura Blvd. 16th Fl Suite 1600 Encino, CA 91436-3027. Phone: ###-###-####. Fax: ###-###-#### ...
I wish you the best in your heartbreaking situation...Getting a really good lawyer will give you and your child the advantage you need to begin a new and much happier chapter in life...
God Bless...
P. K.
Hi! I just wanted to say I am sorry and good luck! And I know now you can not see the light but hang in there!You and your daughter do not deserve someone betraying you!And he did do it to both of you!
Diane Zitzer
http://www.zitserlaw.com/
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She's located in the NBC/Universal Building on the corner of Lankershim & Ventura Blvd accross from the Metro Station.
She's actually a friend of mine, so I know her on a personal level. Diane is super nice.
And for the past 5 years she has been awarded the "best lawyer" in Los Angeles which is awarded from the Judges.
Give her a call and tell her B. sent you.
Hi H.
To discover your husband has had an affair is extremely painful; it is one of highest forms of betrayal - yet,the pain of divorce can be even greater for a child and the after mass of divorce has life-long effects on the child. If there is an possible way not divorcing try, try, try. If you are believe in the Lord, you must also believe He is sovereign and nothing absolutely nothing he can no heal/repair. There are several books in the Christian books that give you tools on how to survive/overcome an affair. Look on the web sites of Focus on the Family and New Life or try you local christian book store. In fact you can call Focus and they will recommend some books, as well as New Life. H., I divorce when my daughters were 7 and 11, now as grown married women I still see the cost of divorce on their lives. Prehaps you can have a legal separate from you husband, for a season for him to come to his senses. Check with you local library for a book by Dr. Dobson called "Love Must Be Tough" - it gives you some stances to take with you husband during this time. Be firm in your stances with you husband DO NOT left him come as go as he please. Set some strong boundaries with him. Get some women around you who will stand with you for you marriage. Yes, you have been done wrong, grieve that truth, but don't live in it - you do NOT want to become a bitter woman. Lastly, remember your daugther is watching you and see will love her dad no matter what. I will be prayin for you.
