Recent Sleep Issue in 8Yr Old

Updated on June 27, 2013
C.B. asks from Ridgefield, CT
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Hi moms! I am hoping someone has had some experience with this and has some advice. My 8.5 year old son recently started having some sleeping issues. Prior there were no issues, went to bed on his own and slept through the night. No nightmares to speak of. For the last three weeks he has been saying he can't go to sleep. He goes to bed at 8:30 but now that school is out is will be more like 9. As soon as hubby and I pass his room to go to bed at 11, he comes out of his room and says he can't get back to sleep. The tiniest creek in the floor must arise him and he comes immediately to us saying he can't fall asleep (but he just was). We tuck him back in and ask if be needs anything. We have offered him a nighight, music, anything that he thinks will help him. No change. Then he comes to us at 1am. Same story. We have tried lying in his bed and leaving when he is asleep. He ends up waking up when we leave. Every night he ends up in our bed (sleeps like a baby but it is too crowded). Tried having him bunk with his twin brother but that didn't help. Have asked repeatedly about nightmares, worries, problems with school, friends, etc but answers 'no'. I checked with his teacher and she said there were no issues that she has seen and she checked with another teacher who is in class a lot and knows my son pretty well. He performed well I school and has made two new great friends. I am a sahm, so I am always around, hubby and I stay involved with sports teams, he has a good group of friends. I cant imagine what is suddenly affecting him. Right now my options that I am considering are: visit to the pediatrician, setting up a sleeping bag in my room for comfort (don't want to seem harsh but since this has gone on for three weeks with no end in sight or explanation I am trying to help us all get some good rest), getting a nanny cam ( just to see how long it takes him to fall asleep or if he really is trying at the 1am wake ups. Obviously the pediatrician is high on my list. Also, not sure if there is some component of sleepwalking as some of his nighttime waking is not recalled the next morning and he speaks unclearly and/or about nonsense. Thanks in advance for any advice
**Additional**he is tired, thats why he gets so upset when he wakes up bc he just wants to go back to sleep. He is very active, playing and swimming outside much of the day. I limit the length of electronics time. he isn't having a problem with the initial falling asleep...it's falling back to sleep during the night hours. He has a ceiling fan that we use but it is quiet. We will try the regular fan for the noise. This weekend it will be a full month of sleep disturbances. That's why we are looking for other suggestions. Just came back from pediatrician. There doesnt seems to be any underlying stress or circumstances that contributed to this. He recommended limiting chocolate and no tv before bed. Recommended a therapist that specializes in sleep disorders to give us suggestions on what might help or what mind tricks he can use to help. Thanks to all for your advice so far!! Every little bit can help or inspire other ideas.

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L.L.

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Hi C.!
OMG I went through the EXACT same thing when my daughter was 9 ( which was just last year) I don't know if this will help, but our family Dr. Recommended child dose of melatonin at bedtime at same time as bedtime snack. You probably know that melatonin is the chemical our brains produce naturally around bedtime that makes us naturally sleepy, but does not " drug " your son. It really helped us as MANY children do not produce enough melatonin. Your son seems to have a lot of anxiety. If he won't say why or doesnt think he does, the melatonin will help by giving him the natural rest he may need. Please remember this is not a " drug ", you are not " drugging " your son, all of his natural reflexes will remain as dominant as natural sleep (like waking up to use the bathroom, etc.. )and he will wake up if you go in to wake him ( like for example, God forbid an emergency like fire, example. ) it sounds like a lot of anxiety, which can be diagnosed as " unspecified anxiety " if he doesn't verbalize it, or if he really doesn't know what he is anxious about. I truly wish you all the best, as I just came through this. .. and don't forget, he will be o.k. and this too shall pass! All the best to you and your son!

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B.P.

answers from Cleveland on

Get a fan for his room. Literally the white noise from it will keep him asleep

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P.K.

answers from New York on

So e times things just happen. No rhyme or reason. Tell him if he wakes to stay in his room or just put a mattress on the floor next to your bed ( but at 8'i do not think that is something I would do). Tell him to read a book, listen to music anything quiet. I would not worry. He will go back to his routine.

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T.K.

answers from Chicago on

Could it be that he's just not tired? I know this happens with my boys because their schedule is totally off in the summer. I noticed that my kids simply were not tired. Make sure your son has plenty of activity during the day. Even when they are at school, sitting in class, their minds are still working hard. Something to try...good luck!!

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

It could just be a phase too. If he's had a growth spurt and isn't in the middle of fighting off an illness he may not be going into REM sleep as much and as deep.

I would be worried about the lack of deep sleep though. I turn on the TV and keep it on the lowest volume but still where I can hear the occasional word. It keeps my mind occupied so I don't worry about stuff.

I point the fan away from my face too. I point it towards the wall and make sure I have a comfy blanket if I get chilly.

C.V.

answers from Columbia on

I agree with the white noise. Put a fan in his room. If he comes out, send him back to bed.

Also, how long is he sleeping in during the morning? He should be up at 8:30 or so.

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