Hi! We moved into our new home about 1 1/2 weeks ago. Prior to that, we were in an extended stay hotel, for 2 weeks, until our home was ready to be moved in to. AND, prior to that, my husband was commuting from Austin to the DFW area for a few months - so he'd basically be home on the weekends. At that time I was also working full time and my daughter was going to daycare. We are now happy to all be together, but things are still a little "dismantled" through the eyes of my children. They miss their friends. Im staying at home now, so that is awesome - but we don't know anyone. My 12 yr old started a new school - so he's staying pretty busy, but my 2yr old has been at home with me trying to adjust. She requires that either myself or her daddy lay down with her at night until she falls asleep (even at naptime). If not, then she cries hysterically. I feel bad to just let her "cry it out", especially since this has been a whirlwind. At the same time, I don't want to form a habit. Any thought's or suggestions, or idea's as to when she will adjust? Has anyone been through anything similar? I also want to start potty training - but obviously want to wait till she's adjusted. Thanks ladies!
Thanks mommies for all the great advice!:)
Get her room set up as close to the same as it was in her/your former home. The more familar her room looks the sooner she will feel at home. Get her involved in some kind of activities such as story time at the library as soon as possible.
I would wait to start potty training for a couple of months.
eek thats a lot! definitely hold off on the potty training and i wouldn't let her cry it out b/c her whole world is just too crazy right now. you're still trying to adjust and you KNOW what's going on so imagine how crazy it must be for her. i would try to establish firm daily routines to help her feel settled and personally, i would lay with her until life feels more ho-hum. good luck!
she totally needs the security of you by her side right now as she falls asleep, just treasure that cuddle time with her, in the whole scheme of things it's not long at all :)
My husband and I just recently moved here with our 2yo. We had already started potty training. Based on how long it took for him to get back to where he was before the move (not wetting himself, and mostly not pooping himself) I would say it took him about two months to adjust. I know because we started a potty chart, and it took two months for him to get back to all the pee going in the potty which he didn't have a problem with before we moved. Try not to change anything from what it was like before. Remember that she is also adjusting to having you there. If you start going in there every time, that will become part of her new routine. Our son also had trouble sleeping here when he was still adjusting. He usually goes to bed fine, but he would cry that he wanted one of us to lay with him. We have never laid with him. Reading him a story at night seems to help. He knew that after the story it would be time to go to bed. One of us will read to him, and then let him read the story or look at the pictures until he is done with that book, then it's time to pray and go to bed. I hope something I said was helpful. Good luck!
This transition and upheaval can take months to overcome. Just institute a routine, stick to it and be patient. She will come around.
