M.J.
Hi K.,
I have miscarried before... you need to give your body a couple months to heal. While your body is healing, use the time to see a counselor. Your husband might be using the finances as an excuse to cover up some other issue. I know when my husband starts getting worried about money... the underlying issue is his loss of control over something else. The last thing you want to do is force an issue and then create resentment from your husband. Try to dig to the bottom of his fears, the underlying causes, and deal with that.
I am very sorry for the loss of your pregnancy. It really sucks.
Good luck...
MJ