Recent Miscarriage

Hi C..

My first pregnancy was a miscarriage and it is disappointing so I'm sorry you had to go through it as well. My doctor put me on progesterone to start my period for the first cycle, then I got pregnant a little over two months after losing the baby (not really intending to). I should have probably waited another month or two, but things worked out for me. We had a very healthy pregnancy and an extremely healthy, vibrant little girl. Good luck!

I found out on July 8th that I was having a miscarriage... We had suspected it for about a week but that's when it was confirmed. Then I found out that my HCG levels were back to 0 on July 25, which also happened to be the first day of my period... Anywho, My doctor told me to wait for 2 periods before we start trying again, to give my body time to get back to normal. I feel the same way you do, a little nervous, but I really want a baby so hopefully in about a month we can start trying again. (Sorry I don't know if I helped much, but I thought I'd share since I'm going through the same thing)

I'm SO sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It's tough to deal with.
Well, I didn't have a D&C or anything so when I had my miscarriage, the last stage was all the bleeding. AND that WAS my last period because I had gotten pregnant two weeks later. So basically, I tried as soon as I could (I was reaching 40 at the time and wanted to waste - No Time). Plus I wanted this one close to my last child so she could have a buddy to play with. So after my miscarriage (Was due Nov. 10th) I had a beautiful baby Boy on February 18th (just 3 months later). He was child number 4 in our now complete family. One more thing, after a miscarriage, you are very fertile - FYI.
Good Luck, Take Care & God Bless,
C. R.

First off, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. This is a difficult time for both you and your husband. It may take some time before you feel like TTC again. My RE told me (after my 1st m/c) that we could try again right away, but we were going through infertility treatments. We decided to take a (much-needed) break after that to gear up for IVF. But I had another in 2007 and my OB told me to wait 3 months. I thought I would be ready again after that 3 month period of time, but ended up having post-partum depression (even though it wasn't after actually delivering, it was still that) so it took longer before I wanted to TTC again that time. Whatever you choose, it is your choice. Just because there is a "norm" out there, it may not be for you. I wish you and your dh the best in TTC again. God Bless!

C.,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, I have been there before and I know how emotionally painful it is. I had a spontaneous period approx three weeks after the miscarriage. We waited for about 3 months after to start trying again, my doctor had told us that we could start sooner, but that was what was right for us, I was scared about trying again. About six months after we started trying we were pregnant and found out it was twins! God really does know what he is doing, I had to go through an awful experience, but in the end my reward was much greater than I could have ever imagined! I hope that things work out for you soon, when the time is right everything will work out for you!

I miscarried last year when I was in my 12th week. I was told to wait until I had one "normal" period before trying again. My OB told me it could take 4-6 weeks for my body to get back on track to have a normal period. The bleeding that occurs immediately following the miscarriage doesn't count as a normal period. Of course, I ended up having a D&C and bled for several days following that. I wasn't ready right away to try again because I was so scared that I would miscarry again, but this all depends on your state of emotions, etc. Good luck and so sorry you had to go through this.

Hi C.,

For me it was about a month after I stopped bleeding from the miscarriage that I had my first regular period (I had to have a D&C - never miscarried on my own). My doctor told me to wait 6 months before trying. Now my sister also had a miscarriage and D&C and the same doctor told her to wait for 2 regular cycles and then it was OK to try. The diffrence was that I was an emtional wreck after mine and he wanted me to wait a little longer. I had to switch doctors during my ordeal. My first doctor told me no heart beat, sent me home had me go for 2 ultra sounds and then after having a total of 3 ultra sounds that showed no heart beat he told me - well maybe I'm wrong and the baby is Ok. Then changed his mind again a few days later and would never tell me if it was better to have the D&C or let nature take it's course. I went 6 weeks after first finding out there was no heart beat until finally switching doctors and having a D&C. Hormone levels never dropped during that time. I went for a 2nd opinon and that doctor (who I contiue to see) almost fell over. He couldn't beleive what the 1st doctor put me through - so that is why he had me wait longer. He thought that I had more healing to do than just physical.

Good luck and I'm really sorry for your loss. I know how much that hurts.

C.,

I am sorry to hear about your loss and completely understand being nervous to try again. We were in the same position with a miscarriage at 6 weeks. My HCG levels went back to 0 right away and my OB said we could start trying again as soon as we felt ready. For us it felt right to try again right away and I did get pregnant without going through a period. At the next ovulation following the miscarriage, I conceived. That pregnancy went to term and our daughter is now 13 months old. I spent the first 3 months of her pregnancy completely nervous and every cramp or 'odd' sensation put me over the edge. I did feel much better when we made it to the 2nd trimester and had sonograms to show that everything was looking good. I'll keep you in my thoughts. You should do what feels right to you.

It really depends on a lot of factors. If you were farther along in the pregnancy, it might take a little longer for your body to get back to normal but if you were still in the early stages, your body might bounce back pretty quick. I miscarried several years ago but was only about 6-8 weeks along and if I remember right, I had my next cycle about the same time as usual. I am currently pregnant and even though I never took a test, I am pretty sure that I miscarried in February, got pregnant in April. I'm sorry you lost this one but don't give up. Most miscarriages are just natures way of saying there was something not right and everything will be fine with the next one.

Hi C.,
I'm sorry for your loss, it is truly devastating to go through a miscarriage. However when I had mine, then people came out of the woodwork to share their losses and to encourage me that all would be well again. The nurse in the ER who helped me said his wife had gone through it, my pastor's wife shared with me she had gone through it, and so many others. So you are not alone.
I miscarried a few days before Thanksgiving, and then my daughter was due the following Thanksgiving, but she came 3 weeks earlier, so do the math. I think I waited 3 months and then tried again because I realized that I really wanted another child, and I got preggers right away. Good luck to you and God bless your family.

My doc said I needed to have 2 normal periods before I got pregnant again after my miscarriage.However I got pregnant before I had another period and everything turned out fine.I have a healthy now five year old daughter.

C.,

I've been through the same thing. We tried for almost 5 years to conceive and then when we finally did I ended up with a miscarriage. If I remember correctly it took me a few months before I had a period. But 6 months after the miscarriage we found out we were pregnant again.

I know it's difficult and I was a nervous wreck throughout my whole pregnancy but everything turned out fine. Your dr. will more than likely keep a close eye on you since you have miscarried before.

Good Luck!

I had a miscarriage and started to try again right away. While I did become pregnat again right away during my pregnancy I really started to realize that I did not give our family enough time to grieve the loss of this unborn child. Luckily we were able to work through the grief before the baby was born. Just make sure that you have time to grieve.

It all depends on how far along you were when you miscarried. If it was in the first trimester, you usually should wait until after one period. If you had a late miscarriage, which I did, you should wait at least six months. You just want to make sure your body is physically ready to carry a child full term. Good luck.

I'm really sorry for your loss. Share support groups have been very helpful to some family members who have miscarried, and I would suggest looking into them both for information and for support.
T.

My period started just a few days after the doctor told me I had miscarried. I did artificial insemination so that could make a difference?
I had read that you could start after your first period.

On when to try, it just depends on when you are emotionally ready. It won't be too soon or too late just do what is right for you.

I had a miscarriage last year and my doctor told me that we shouldn't start trying for at least 6 months. He said your body still needs time to heal afterwards. I didn't have a period until about 3 months later, but my dr also said that everyone is different and it just depends on your body. I know exactly how scared you are too, I didn't even want to think about trying again. Now I am almost 5 months and wishing we would have tried again sooner.

The best thing to do is wait until you atleast had one period, I have heard of women trying right after a miscarriage and getting pregnant not long after and then some waiting a month, 2mths or even 3. I have a miscarriage back awhile ago and the doctor I had back then said I could start after I got a regular period, well I wasnt about that at the time, I didnt want to be pregnant then so I never tried. I guess it all depends on each women and their bodies, and how each feels.

Good Luck
Sending some pregnancy dust your way.

Good Morning C.,

Sorry for your loss. I was told to wait 2 normal periods. That was so your body can get back to normal. I was also told 4-6 weeks before a normal period would return. You do what your body and emotions tell you to do. Yes, it is very scary. Best wishes.

Jen

Oh, C.. I am so very sorry. I also suffered a miscarriage in March 2007. It is such a heart wrenching experience for women, a loss that you can't quite explain with your emotions. I pray that you're not only healing physically, but emotionally too. Give yourself as much time as needed to wrap your mind around what happened before jumping back in the saddle, so to speak:)

Personally, my husband & I started trying again in June & July, four months after my miscarriage. I was blessed to already have a 3-year-old daughter to focus my energy on after the miscarriage, but I was still experiencing feelings of guilt, disappointment & sadness for a few months afterward. Once I got to place in my heart where I was "healed", we began trying to conceive again. Now, we're blessed with a precious 4-month-old girl!

You should receive your normal menstrual cycle about four- to six-weeks after your miscarriage (in your case, about two weeks from now). Generally, experts say women are not really fertile until four- to six-weeks after a miscarriage. But depending on your body, you could conceive earlier!

Bets of luck on this journey C.. Be confident that this next baby you & your hubby conceive will be carried to full-time & will be healthy!

C.:

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I too have had a miscarriage before I got pregnant with my son. My doctor told me to wait until my first cycle after the miscarriage then he told me to go on ahead and start trying whenever I felt ready. It took a couple of months before I was ready and 3 months after I was ready, I got pregnant with my son.

Good Luck to you and whenever you feel ready to try for another baby, go for it!!!

M.

C.,
First of all, I want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. My heart goes out to you. I, too, had a miscarriage in December. I know my experience was that my period returned about 27/28 days (my normal cycle length) after my miscarriage. I waited 2 cycles per doctors orders and am now 5 1/2 mos pregnant again. I know that many doctors say different things and I know that many women get pregnant right after their miscarriage and go on to have healthy pregnancies. So, I think that it is up to you and how you feel physically and emotionally. Good luck TTC.

N.

I am very sorry to hear about the miscarriage. When I had mine: My next period was about 3 weeks after the miscarriage bleeding stopped, and we started "trying" immediately-- and I didn't have another period after that. My son was born a month and a half after the first pregnancy's due date! Good luck--I'll be praying for you!

11 years ago I had my first pregnancy and it ended in a miscarrage. I too began trying again and with in 3 months I was pregnant for the second time. I too was nervous but I have a perfect 11yr old son who is the joy of my life. I knew I had to keep trying and work through the anxiety and stress. That marrage ended shortly after telling my husband I was pregnant again. But I am now happily married to my soul mate and we have been trying to concieve for over 4 years with no result. No confirmed pregnancies.
Just remember to enjoy your life and not let trying to concieve overcome your daily functions. Enjoy yourself!

Hi C.,
I'm SO sorry for your loss. I lost my baby at 11 weeks and it was a very difficult time in my life. My best advice to you is to seek instruction from your doctor about when your body is ready to try again (although typically it is after one normal cycle). Most importantly, make sure all of you is ready to move on. Take care of yourself and allow yourself the time to grieve and heal. I have a booklet of helpful information and a pillow that I make for moms who have lost a baby and they are given away at various hospitals. I would be happy to send you one.

Take care,
M. Day
Heaven Born
Comforting Moms, Honoring Babies
www.heavenborn.com

I'm sorry for your loss.

After I miscarried my doctor wanted me to wait for at least 3 months before I tried again. You need to heal inside so you can carry a baby full term. One time I miscarried and got pg right away and I lost that baby too. I have had 4 miscarriages. Go slow and you will get pg when it's the right time. A couple of months after my last miscarriage, I told my husband I didn't want anymore babies as I couldn't handle losing another one. Well I didn't know but I was already 8 weeks pg!! The pregnancy was a good one and my miracle baby was born on 6-6-06!! The doctors didn't think I would be able to carry her full term and she arrived on her due date.

Good luck and it will happen when you least expect it.

C.: I am so sorry for your loss! I m/c twice before our first was born. I remember my cycle returning normally, but I m/c at 5/5 weeks both times. Perhaps if you were pregnant longer, it might take longer?

The emotional side effects of m/c are perhaps more important. I would give yourself and your hb some time to process. It might not be as traumatic with another child, but it hit me super hard! And it didn't happen right away. Google miscarriage Auckland to find a great on-line resource. It was really helpful to me.

Hi, C.. I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I know what an emotional toll that takes on a family. I had a miscarriage in 2006 and it took about 4 weeks after my hormone level returned to zero to get my period. My obgyn told us we could try again immediately following a normal period. So we did, and I ended up having an ectopic pregnancy next, which required a D&C. Again, my obgyn told me to wait for one normal period following the D&C ordeal. In the meantime, I discovered I had a blood clotting disorder which was causing all these problems. I started on Heparin, and as soon as I had my normal period following my D&C, we conceived our baby girl and she is now almost 1 year old! All those events occurred in the time span of less than one year - from initial miscarriage, to an ectopic pregnancy, to successfully pregnant. It all depends on your personal timeline that you and your husband are emotionally and physically comfortable with. I will keep you in my thoughts! In the meantime, take care of yourself!

I miscarried my first pregnancy and began having normal periods a month later. Our doctor told us to wait 3 months to try, I think to let my uterus heal (I had a D&C). I was really anxious though, and got pregnant after the second month. Everything was fine and I had a great pregnancy. Best wishes!

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a 2nd miscarriage during the last weekend of January because my body wasn't producing progesterone. My husband and I decided to wait a while, terrified of ever going through an experience like that again. Apparently we weren't careful enough because when my period still hadn't come back by the last weekend of February I bought a couple pregnancy tests and they were positive. I went in to the doctor the very next day for bloodwork. I was put on a progesterone supplement immediately, wasn't allowed to exercise or lift anything for the first 12 weeks, and am now 28 weeks into the pregnancy. With that said, wait until you're comfortable trying, but know that you can get pregnant as soon as you're ready to try. I would recommend going to see your doctor for bloodwork as soon as you have a positive test though, just so your doctor can monitor the pregnancy from the start. Good luck!

I had two miscarriages in a row at 6-7 weeks. We would get pregnant fast but it didn't stick. I had one son prior. When I got pregnant with my second son, I had a miscarriage, then about four weeks later I had a period. I thought I ovulated, but one week after that period, I had another full length period (7 days for me!). Then I got pregnant on that cycle. I used progesterone supplements for the first twelve weeks, and Henri is now six months old.

Hi C.,
My deepest sympathies for your loss.
I am not an expert on this by any means, but I can tell you what happened to me. I had a miscarriage around the third month of pregnancy. We weren't really trying, but I found myself pregnant again about three months later. It all went well, and today, that little girl is a beautiful, healthy 21-year-old.
It's probably better to wait longer, so your body has a chance to get stronger and healthier, but it is possible to have a happy healthy pregnancy and baby almost immediately.

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I have had a couple of miscarriages, and my doctor made me wait for two normal periods (basically two months) after each miscarriage. She said that waiting a little longer helps get everything back to size and body back to normal. I wish you well.

V.

Sorry for your loss C., I say to wait at least 3-4 months before trying again, that should be long enough for your body to heal itself. When I had a miscarriage i was not trying but I was almost 12 weeks and i bleed for awhile so I know i was worn out for months after. My sister n law also was told by her Dr to give that same 3-4 months. Also as sad as miscarriages are 1 in 4 pregnancy end in one, sucks ha. anyway many blessings with the next.

Hi C.,

First off I would like to say how sorry I am. I have had two miscarriages myself. I think it depends on how for along you were and how quickly your body can bounce back from it. When this happens it's hard on your body. It's not a normal process such as giving birth, so your body may need more time. In my case, my periods were crazy. I had two a month for four months. Basically, one overy would release an egg and then two weeks later the other overy released an egg giving me eight periods in four months. I was 15 weeks along before I knew about the death of my baby. He died around 12 weeks, but I didn't notice any difference in the way I was feeling. My first period was about 31 days after the miscarriage. In my experience with miscarriage it may be better to wait until your periods regulate back to normal. When everything was normal again for me, I got pregnant with out any problems. I didn't go on the pill to regulate my periods either. Your body goes through so much trauma when having a miscarriage. Also if you had to have a D&C, there is more truama. It worked better for me to wait until my body went back to normal, plus it gave me and my husband time to collect our thoughts and go through the grieving process too. Some people have a traumatic experience when going through this. I don't know how you feel about it, but it cut deep to loose our baby the way we did. Things are great now though. Our son just turned 17 months and he is amazing! We are very blessed. I hope things work out for you and your family. I wish you lots of luck on your next pregnancy. Remember trying is the best part!

A. Hatch