Really down in the Dumperaoo

I know exactly how you feel. I spent 5.5 years at a place I hated. I thought I could wait 2 years and then find another job so it would not look too badly on my resume. After 1.5 years I started looking. I was a single mother at the time and had no choice. It took 4 years to find another job with this economy. Actually I had about 8 sporadic weeks of medical leave my last year and I spent the last 4 applying for jobs every day until I got out. Life is too short to be so unhappy, work toward making a change!

Dear oh dear, that makes me depressed just reading it! First, start looking for another job (obviously). Second, try to have something to look forward to every day, like a delicious cup of coffee, your favourite TV show, a foot massage from hubby - appreciate the little things. Make a mind shift and make your work a secondary priority. While you're there plan other good things like a picnic on the weekend, or a Halloween party - more things to look forward to. At my last dead-end pathetic job, i used the time by sneakily studying and finished my masters degree. The week after i finished got a fabulous job and quit! Good luck, hope you find something wonderful soon!

Been there and done that. What helped me snap out of it is to really count my blessings. If you looked at things honestly you would see that not everything about that place is all doom and gloom. Find at least 1 thing to truly be grateful for while there and focus on that like a kitten watches a mouse.

When you get home and even while you are at work at least start planning mentally your exodus strategy. Have you ever considered what you life would really be like without that job? If you are there because you need the money then let that be your motivation. Think of all the things that paycheck affords you. Even if it doesn't go as far as you would like it to, it is still more than unemployment and remember that.

What would you like to do? Have you even started getting the education or training to move in that direction?

Only you can snap yourself out of this but it will require new thinking on your part. Doesn't your family deserve you at your best? I would begin to exercise my mind in a more positive direction and stop feeling sorry for myself. I really hope this helps.

Hello! Are you my twin? :) I'm getting over the BLAHs for the same scenario. Sometimes you just need a bit of a pity party. It's no way to spend your life! I've kicked around going back to school, or looking for a job within my current co. Is there any kind or support or Employee assistance you can go to? Any training programs or assistance w college courses?

I think I got out of my funk by an email someone sent...about choosing to see the positve. Life is full of choices...big and small. You can choose to be miserable or you choose to be happy.

Good luck! Hope you find that happiness soon!

My last job was like that and I ultimately quit and was sooo much happier for it. I got a job substitute teaching at the school system where my daughter goes for half the money I was making and we can't do all of the things we used to do (random shopping trips, going to the movies all the time etc) but I am so much happier and my husband even commented the other night that he is happier because I am happier and not so grumpy anymore. I didn't realize it was affecting him and my daughter as much too but apparently it was.

I too am in a job I am not happy with. I am looking for other work that can fit my night schedule, as I am a stay at home dad during the day, taking care of my kids.
For the mood control, I take an over the counter supplement called "St. Johns Wort". It comes from a plant. You can look it up online. I call them my happy pills. They are 300mg gel caps. You can take one to three caps a day. I take one in the morning with my regular vitamins, & one before I go to work in the afternoon. These help boost your mood, and can also be used by most people for mild depression. Try it & see if it helps. It works well for me.

I cant' count how many craptastic life force sucking hateful unbearable jobs I've had in my life. Even jobs that were OK had co workers who were sheer evil. Over the years, I finally worked hard to start my own business, and now I'm taking time off to be a sahm and thank my lucky stars DAILY that I'm not working, even if it does mean living with the bare minimum necessities. Though I may have to return to work. But anyway.
All you can do is make a plan and a goal and get the heck out of there. If you are working toward it a little every day you will feel proactive. My good friend just gave her notice and is 3/4 of the way through an online degree she got while at work. YES, she was exhausted and over-extended doing homework assignments after work and weekends, but she was working her way out of her job, so she felt empowered. She never had time to pursue job hunting adequately while working in that hell hole, so now she has a cushion of money saved up and she will apply for new jobs every day until she finds a different one.
See what you can do, otherwise, you'll have to just stay and try to be grateful for the paycheck.

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