A.C.
I don't think it's so much a disrespect to you as to him. Yeah it's weird, not so much that they stay in touch with her, but that they stay in touch with her AFTER WHAT SHE DID to him. But different people act...well, different! My family tends to be a little more a "stick together" kind of family.....I was pretty friendly with my brother's ex until I found out she wasn't treating him right. After that, she was immediately on my "black list", ya know? In my husband's case, he and his exwife weren't exactly amicable, but the dissolution of their marriage was really both their faults. So it wasn't a big deal to me that his mother and a friend stayed in touch with her for awhile. It was a long distance thing and there were no kids involved, so it faded away, but it didn't bother me because my husband was honest and let me know they were BOTH wrong. I suppose it wouldn't be fair or right to take sides or kick someone out of the family if they're both in the wrong, and some families take it seriously when they "adopt" a person into their family during a marriage. But it would make sense to me that if there's no children in the marriage and one person leaves under the circumstances you described, that loyalty should go to the person that's actually related to you. (Different rules if kids are in the picture though).