RE: Discipline, My Previous Question

Oh what the hell. I actually found the question you're referring to.

Here's MY take from what you shared: Your 5 year old child is throwing more tantrums than a 2 year old, won't listen, is beating up on the dog, throws toys, etc., and you want to just TALK to her about why what she's doing is not acceptable.

Momma, there's your problem right there. With kids you HAVE to be short and to the point otherwise you lose their attention and all your talking to her does nothing.

I TOLD you my suggestion would not be popular, but I stick to it. Kids NEED clearly defined boundaries, with easy-to-predict consequences. Without that, they become out of control brats like what you describe about your daughter. If she throws a toy, then XYZ happens EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. If she hits the dog, then XYZ happens EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. And so on and so forth.

Negotiations are for adults that have the ability to predict possible outcomes. It really sounds to me like you're trying to be her best friend out of some misplaced guilt over something. You can't do that, she'll take advantage of you every time, and will be an even bigger unholy terror when she's a teenager, and then it will be too late to instil discipline in/on/to her.

I didn't answer your original question, but what struck me was your mentioning not wanting her to be unhappy. Cheryl B. gave you really good advice. You should listen to it and take it to heart. If your daughter never has to feel unhappiness as a child, she cannot learn to deal with it as an adult. You will stunt her growth if you always try to prevent her unhappiness. Instead, you work WITH her to help her navigate it. It will also help her feel empowered to accept her feelings and work through them.

Your style for trying to make this platform work is making me laugh.

That is meant in a good way.

it might be easier for you to send people PMs (Private Messages) instead of reposting....

The reason I say this - some might see it as "flaming" and calling people out specifically. I know you are NOT doing this - you are simply responding to everyone's answers.

Hope this helps. Hope you enjoy it here!