Hi Mom's!
I was watching TV and sewing. I got a text from a babysitting client I haven't heard from in awhile. Yes, its 10pm here! Last time I babysat she said she would be back home at 11pm....she didn't come back till 3am and I was at her house and my puppy had waited over 10hrs to be walked. She just text me asking if I could go over there to her house to watch her children for 3 hours or so she said....I told her I have a puppy and the kids would have to come here. She asked by text if I could bring my puppy to her apartment....do you think this lady is using me? Should I do the job?
Thanks!
PS I have no kids of my own yet, I am 27 though......the weather here is very bad, lots of rain and all. No excuse but...I do have a life too! :) Seems like she is just trying to get someone to watch them so she can go all the way to Maryland for a booty call. Sorry!
Oh just to add; my puppy has high anxiety. He doesn't like changes or new places....I just sent a text to her saying this. He hates apartments and is freaked out easily.
Update: Just got a text back saying that her kids want to sleep in their own beds tonight. LMFAO What about me too? Don't I want to sleep in my own bed too? I have no idea when this lady could be back anyhow seeing what I went through the last time. LOL. For $10/hr I guess its not worth it! No way do I want to get dressed and drive 15-30 mins with a bunch of crazy teens! Oh and she also put maybe we could try another night. LOL. Yep okay!......recent text from her....she said something about last minute and that she "never" goes out is why she hasn't text me lately. LOL. I know the real reason why...she can't find anyone to put up with her last minute late night texts!!!!!
Hi Moms!
I did NOT babysit for her. She wouldn't bring the children over here. Thankfully, I did get in some sleep. I never included in my post that I had worked yesterday and didn't get back home from work till 8pm, besides the point I was tired too. Anyhow! All of my other clients schedule things ahead, not ask last minute at 10pm at night and want to go out right away. Something fishy about that. If she had known there was a party or her boyfriend was in town or whatever; she should have called ahead, that would have been a nice thing out of respect. Anyways; I really appreciate your thoughts and advice. Trust me for $10/hr it was not worth it. I know she would have not been willing to pay more..
Thanks again Moms!
Who is this person, exactly? And, who in the hell texts someone at 10pm to watch their kids, all so they can go get laid? Not exactly mom of the year material. Am I the only one thinking "Jerry Springer"?! I'd stay far, far away from that. I'd be ignoring those nonsense texts.
I'm confused - who are the teens? You said you don't have any kids.
If you do go over there (and I wouldn't do it for 10.00/hr) you can bet she will not be back until atleast morning and then she will blame it on the weather. Proceed with caution.
You have a right to accept jobs or not, and bring your dog or not. It's up to you to decide whether or not what she pays you is worth it.
I don't think "rude" is relevant. I think people are allowed to ask, as long as they are willing to hear "no."
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i don't get why it's such a big deal. she isn't 'expecting' you to do it, she's asking. she didn't call you, she texted. texts can easily be ignored, that's their (one) saving grace.
of course her kids want to sleep in their own beds. why would you expect a mom to NOT consider that?
if you don't want to do it, just say no.
but i don't see how she's being rude to ask you if she can use your professional services.
khairete
S.
Honestly? For ten bucks an hour, you don't want to go sit at someone else's house while her children sleep? Yeesh...I'd do it in a second, if I didn't have kids. What an easy job.
And as far as the "what about me" comment concerning beds...of course, the children want to sleep in their own beds. YOU are the adult. :) Just saying.
Heck no! Do not go to that woman's house at the last minute. You have the upper hand. If she wants a babysitter bad enough, have her bring the child to you and make her pay slightly more, since it's last minute and an inconvenience because of it to boot. If she says forget it, it's probably for the best for you. This is the night everyone has Halloween parties and whoops it up. She IS NOT going to be home until late/morning. Do you want to be out and about with all of the drunks on the road? Your puppy will be happy if you stick to your guns. :)
that could have been one expensive booty call, maybe should would of paid $20 an hour
I just got an email from someone wanting me to go to their house with 9 and 10 year old boys. He said he'd pay 20 bucks per hour. Whatever. I don't work in other peoples houses. That's simply not enough. I'm going to bed. :)
No way. She needs to go to you. I really hate the mentality that we need to run after them. That is, unless she wants to pay you a great deal more than what you can make at your house.
Booty call babysitting? at least $15.00 an hour, at least..
I don't know how bad you need the money, be honest..
I wouldn't so it for less than $50. taking your children dog and then having to sleep over there.
It would mean getting the children up, walking the pup before you leave, getting everybody settled down there, and not knowing when you will be able to go back home. This client doesn't have a good reputation for timeliness. I'd tell her, "Sorry - can't do it. Maybe another time. I do not uproot my family this late at night." And then I'd sign off - you don't need to have a big conversation about it (or defend yourself).
I'd just text back, "sorry I'm already obligated tonight".. and be done with it.
If you've told her "I'm available anytime".... well, she's not afraid to go out on a limb and ask. At least she texted it so as not to disturb you and put you totally out with an actual phone call. And that is why I LOVE texts.
And it shouldnt matter to you what she's going to go do, keep that in mind.
I would just say no! It isnt worth it, especially if the weather is bad. It sounds like she could care less about you and only cares about herself.
Does she pay you by the hour? Insist on it.
Perhaps you could require extra money for every 15 minutes late (I text when I'm late and I pay more).
Do you need the job? Do you need to sit for her in the future for the money? Or are you willing to let this client go permanently?
Are you in your pj's and would it be an inconvenience?
Is your puppy friendly? Would he enjoy playing with kids?
Are you allowed to sleep while babysitting?
Maybe do it this time, with an understanding that after the established hour, you require more money. Then spend tomorrow deciding whether you want to keep this client in the future.
Sounds like she's TRYING to use her current babysitter, and that one is having none of it - and is leaving, period, and will probably call the cops if mom (or someone) isn't home to relieve her.
As a parent, you just can't do that... shove your kids off on people and come back 5 hours late. Sounds like lady needs a serious wakeup call.
Personally, I wouldn't want to insert myself into that drama NOR set myself up as the 'booty call babysitter' -> call last minute, any time of the night and I'll come running. If mom has another sitter, the sitter could well have already CALLED the cops on absent mom.
Now... I could be totally wrong, and mom's totally on the ball, and there, and that was a one time thing... but since you're asking if you're being used; you probably are.
Nope, she needs to bring the kids to your house. It is rude of her to expect you to drop everything and run to her rescue. If she needs a sitter bad enough, she should have no problem going to your house!
I'd tell her no.
Lack of planning on her part does not make for an emergency on my part.
Besides, after your last experience with this lady, I'd never baby sit for her again.
The one time a baby sitting job of a few hours turned into an all nighter was when the parents got into a car accident, landed in the hospital and the kids aunt and uncle came to the door at 5am explaining what had happened (and also were bruised/bandaged up from the accident).
Is it an emergency or does she just want to go out for a good time? I would probably do it if she pays well. My cousin though has a two year old foster child whos mom left the child with the babysitter and never came back. Now my cousin has this womans child until she completes child rearing classes. Hopefully she will learn not to leave her child with a sister indefinitely:)
Yes she is RUDE!!!
Hi, Dancer:
Just refuse her requests politely.
End of Story.
Good luck.
D.
I don't think she's being rude. Just take the job, or not! She does sound a little "off" though - what mom leaves her kids with a sitter from 11pm to 3am? If you do take this kind of job in the future (because you need the money or whatever) tell her you charge X amount for overnights. Maybe $100 or something. If you don't like the job she's offering you then simply decline it. No reason to even get all crazy about it.
