K.S.
Hi!
I am a Children and Family Photographer. While I am not claiming to be an equipment expert, here are some of my thoughts on your questions. First, the 55-200 is great for portraits, you would need to find the 'sweet spot' for that lens, but usually full zoom (150-200) is a good portrait sweet spot. The bokeh effect comes from the aperture mostly. I use a (Nikon) 50mm f1.4G lens for awesome bokeh effects - it gives a very short depth of field at fully open (f1.4), therefore blurry background. I'm not sure what specific lens is compatible with your Sony, but I would look for something that opens up to at least f1.8 if you can. I hope that helps!
~K.
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