A.S.
Hi R.,
My sons were both potty trained when I adopted them but can I tell you what psychologist Kevin Leman says? It made perfect sense to me. He says to buy a little kids potty and leave it in the bathroom. The child will get curios about it, sit on it sometimes, and eventually train himself to go potty. He will feel no pressure and there's no hurry (like you said). I don't know if this speaks to your problem, but I thought I'd share it with you. Dr. Leman has helped us in other issues such as discipline and if you like to read he's terrific because he's funny.
Hope this helps.
A.