You knowwhat? My sister thinks I don't spend my money well either. She thinks I blow it on stuff I don't need and that I should do certain things instead.
She and I don't agree on some of those things. She's a Jehovah's Witness, she does not pay tithes. If I mention paying tithes she says I should pay my bills and everything before I pay them. I don't feel that way.
She is one to put every penny in savings so she can feel secure. I want to have enough groceries and electricity and never have anything left over to put anything in savings.
She will not buy something she really wants because she needs to have money in savings. I will buy something I really need if it's something I need.
So, if you asked my sister this question about me she'd likely tell you the same thing.
This stepson's wife is dying? Then it doesn't matter. If they used every penny of this money to go to Galveston for a week instead of paying bills it doesn't matter. She is going to be gone.
He may need the help to take care of her as she declines. He may need the support of this family so he will not die inside when she's gone. She may be terrified and want her mom or her dad or her aunt or her cousin. She needs to be able to see her family to reminisce and to say goodbye to them.
If I had any money I'd give it to them and hope they did something totally fun and enjoyable with it instead of paying a bill. She won't be here much longer but the bills still will be.