Hi M.,
I pumped for over a year with all 3 of my boys, none of them were ever able to latch on to me properly.
The best advice I can give:
Pump when you have the time to, take it as a break for yourself, do some magazine reading or tv watching that you normally do not get a chance to do.
Only pump when someone is available to watch the baby, it gets way to stressful if you try to do both yourself.
I alsways started the pump on a lowere setting to ease the discomfort, then increased it to full bore on both frequency and suction.
Pump one side first, switch to the other side, then GO BACK to the first side, more milk has some in while you were pumping the other. During the pump is when you massage your breast, and go all the way back to under your arms and sqeeze forward, your body just has to get use to it.
If you can set up a schedule for both the baby and the pump that will help your body regulate also.
In the end I was able to train my body to allow me to pump only in the morning and in the evening, and I would produce enough milk to be able to give only breastmilk to my babies until they were 14 months old each.
Best of luck, and Belss you for trying to do what is best for the babe!!
Angela
SAHM to Max 6, Aiden 4, Owen 2 and 2 exchange students ages 16 and 17 from Korea and Vietnam