Are you getting enough sleep? Is the rest of your face... round and puffy too? Doctors generally say best solution is lots of rest, plenty of sleep and a good diet and moisturizer. (With 3 kids at home all the time, that's probably very laughable I know, but that's what a dr. – usually a male who doesn't have to be home with the kids all the time, a a woman with a nanny or really good sitter — woud say.)
Also, have you been crying a lot? Cucumbers over the eyes are supposed to be restive. Also, for quick fix puffiness (as is often recommended to someone who has been crying) a tea bag helps draw it out.)
For the color? People used to take milk baths. Was supposed to be great for the skin, so is oatmeal mask. Ice cube, as is the case with swelling, can help reduce the area temporarily.
Or maybe you just need to get nominated for the TLC show 10 years younger. :)
Good luck mom. If ya find something that 90 % works let us know.