J.-
I understand not wanting to take any medications unnecessarily, but I urge you not to insist on no medications if you need them. You reference a family and personal medical history that may make it advisable for you to take medications. Please remember that prescription drugs are all FDA-approved and prescribed on the basis of a benefit-risk analysis. Of course there are risks, but the question is "Do the benefits to you, your children & your family outweight the risks?"
I encourage you to speak with your OB/GYN, internist or a psychiatrist about alternate medications that have good track records of use during pregnancy. Please take care of yourself! If you don't, you will not be able to care for anyone else... Trust me - I know from experience on this one. I am now a "lifer" (my terminology) on an SSRI that has been around a LONG time and records exist to substantiate its relative safety during pregnancy.
Remember that being anxious, depressed or otherwise "not yourself" is at least as unhealthy for you and your family as the risks associated with a good choice of medication. I commend you for seeking a professional counselor as well. The one I know is in south Arlington, so I don't think she would fit your needs well at this time. Blessings on you as you care for yourself and your family!