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Simply put B. R., sounds like you need to focus on you and your family. I too have a mother who focuses on herself and as I like to put it is that she means well but she hits a lot of speed bumps in the road of life. Sounds like your mom might have hit a speed bump. I would take it for what it is and worry about your own issues and move on. I know your feelings are hurt but you need to come to the realization that your mom has a different priority than you and looks at things completely different than you do. Once you stop worring about trying to alway make it right based on your thoughts and opinions you will free yourself of a lot stress. You mother needs to realize that you are her daughter and she needs to be there for you. It just seems if something was said or done by you or somebody in your family to upset them causing them to leave, the lease they could do is give you the common courtesy to fix it or an attempt to make it right. They are adults by age but it sounds like emotionally they are children and willing to walk away from the route cause of the issue. Therefore, move on and focus on yourself and your family. You can't control your mother and she definitely has her own agenda so just don't worry about it let her do some worrying. She might not at first but in time she will. Your mother owes you the courtesy of understanding you and your situation. The problem is she is too focused on her own issues so don't plan on anything changing, you just need to work around it since you can't change family. Goodluck.