Prenup

I don't see an issue with it. My husband and I did not have any assets when we got married so it was not an issue. It certainly doesn't sound like he is trying to make it financially difficult for you to get out of the relationship or anything like that, he just wants to be careful.

I know that the process and the idea of it stinks, but if you think of a marrage as a legal union between two people, it sounds like you have the type of fiance that likes to dot the i's and cross the t's on that contract. Nothing wrong with being overly cautious and, in a way, I think it shows how serious he takes that union.

In NC it doesnt matter because what is his premarraige is his after divorce anyway, so if you are ok with it sign it. I am getting divorced right now,and stuff that we bought while together on a shopping trip TWO days before we got married are now HIS even though they were bought for the marital home. Happily married or not, you have no rights to anything in the state of NC until after the Marraige license is signed.

HI,V.!FIRST LET ME SAY I ALWAYS TYPE IN UPPER CASE SO I'M REALLY NOT YELLING! ALTHOUGH I MIGHT FEEL VERY STRONGLY ABOUT THIS SUBJECT! I THINK THIS GUY MUST NOT TRUST YOU VERY MUCH IF HER DOESN'T EVEN CONSIDER THE OPINION THAT YOU HAVE!!FIRST, OF ALL I FEEL LIKE THAT IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE ENOUGH THAT A PRENUP IS NOT NECESSARY. IF HE REALLY LOVED,HONORED,TRUSTED,& CARED FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN THEN HE WOULD'T NEED YOU TO SIGN A PRENUP. I COULD SEE A POSSIBLE PRENUP THAT STATED THAT YOU WOULD GET NOTHING SAY IF YOU TWO WERE MARRIED LESS THAN SAY 5 YEARS. NOW, THAT SOUNDS FAIR!BUT TO GIVE EVERYTHING TO OTHERS IN THE EVENT OF HIS DEATH THAT IS JUST WRONG IN ANY WAY THAT YOU TURN IT OR TWIST IT!! I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK, BUT REMEMBER IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING LET IT GO IF IT COMES BACK IT'S YOUR IF IT DOESN'T IT NEVER WAS!MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN.T.

im not trying to be rude but if you were to marry someone poor you wouldnt get anything either marriage i s about love not money...should you have a child with this man i bet he would then change the agreement my husband did something of the sort then changed it when we had a child...im confused about why u would think you are entitled to anything this man earned before you and that u are upset by this at all sounds to me like u are both planning for a failed marriage instead of a life long commitment. maybe hes protecting himself because he thinks by u making an issue of this that you really are out for his money...thats what i would think if iwere him...sorry

Unless he is living off of a huge trust fund or has a minimum of 6-7 figures in the bank that is pretty ridiculous to have a pre-nup. So if you really love him they it's your decision. However I really don't believe that one is necessary. If he really trusted you he wouldn't ask for one. HOWEVER if he has that much money please don't forget to protect ur-self in the event that he does something wrong to ruin the marriage. Tell him it's a 2 way street. Good luck!!

I know it seems insulting, and like he's PLANNING for the failure of your marriage, but if you don't have a problem with the actual terms of the prenup, I'd say take a breath and sign the stupid thing.

Question: Does he already have one drawn up? Typically, the assets you accumulate before your marriage are not equitably divided in a divorce anyway, so his terms are a little redundant. This is not true in long marriages, where the assets are commuted into marital property, but again, you need to ask yourself what you would want IF the marriage failed. If after 25 years of marriage you would feel entitled to half of his mother's antique china, then don't sign. If you think you won't care, then sign.

You will need to retain your own attorney to advise you- this is not only a good idea, but it is the law in a prenup.

Hey im sorry to hear that i cant imagine how that makes you feel. I would be upset about it too i would think the same thing. Have you asked him about it? You two should talk about it you know. find out why he wants it like that.