Pregnant with 3Rd Child and Not Ready!!!

I have to say congrats. I wen't test crazy when I found out I was pregnant with our third although not quit as close together in age we have three under 5. I found out we were pregnant two weeks after my husband (only income) lost his job unexpectidly. We moved halfway across the country and then I found out. Definately not expecting it especially since we only planned ourselves on having two. I ended up having hyperemesis with this last pregnancy and was hospitalized in the ICU over 4 times after delivering for unbelevably high blood pressure up over 280/140 Some days i wonder how we got through it but we did. My hubby was an only parent for the first 2 months but he made it. I even managed on keeping up on breastfeeding. We new the minute I was diagnosed with hyperemesis that is was going to be a long road but we just kept saying "we can do this" now almost 8 months later we couldn't imagine what life would be like without our sweet new addition. I nearly died many times but she is worth ever hard moment. So just like you one minute I tested positive and the next I didn't on the test but those negative ones were false. it is a good thing you know about the BP before becoming pregnant I wish I new I was going to have that issue, I went two weeks with the worst headache and vomiting, before I was diagnosed with BP they kept sending me home with a migraine headache. I was so sick I don't know how I took care of the kids by myself for those few weeks with how high my BP was but when you are a mom you make it work. I guess what I am trying to do here is give you some incouragement that if indeed you are pregnant that you can do it. You are not the only one out there that has been through this (I am not saying that it might not be hard for you or that it may not work out well) but I am letting you know that we are here to help you if you need. God only give us what we can handle!

Patty is right, and you have plenty of time to get ready. You know what to look out for and that is half the battle. Un planned baby's when you are married are bonus baby's from God. J.

Hi,

I just wanted to say that I know you are scared about this pregnancy and it being too early after your second was born--but I know a lot of women who have kids the same distance as you do. You are so right that God has a plan for your family---He has a specific plan for the new baby you are carrying right now-- think positively, go to the doctor and be well! Everything will be ok.

M

My oldest was turning 3 (and my second was 1) when I got pregnant with #3. When #3 was born I had a 3 1/2 year old and turning 2 year old. My kids were born healthy and I really love having them that close together. Yours will be a bit closer, but not much.

I was lucky to have healthy pregnancies, you should call your Midwife or Doc. and get in early for a health check if you are concerned. Maybe there are things you can start early to keep you healthy for your pregnancy.

Somethings I wasn't ready for - my oldest stopping napping at age 3 (I really needed that nap during the afternoon) be ready to be creative to get your needed rest. I used movies, books on CD, and "family naptime" to get through the harder days of my pregnancy.

Also, the first few months with a 3 year old, 2 year old and newborn were a lot harder than I expected. Take it easy on yourself, and be ready to take help when you can get it. My Mom came and stayed with us for a week after delivery and my husband took his time off after she was here so I had help for 3 weeks after baby came. You can take care of 3 kids after delivery, be prepared before the baby comes with a stash of coloring books, board books, new videos, and new toys to pull out when you need them. Start shopping for deals now so it isn't added expense after baby comes.

Babies are wonderful - it will bring your family joy.

J.

I have three friends that have kids about 12mo apart and all had normal healthy pregnancies and gave birth to healthy babies. So yes it happens a lot! Just make sure you share all your concerns with your doctor since they know your medical history and what that means for a pregnancy this soon. Good luck!

My girls are 15 months apart. Your baby will be fine. It can be hard on your body, with the pre-eclampsia and such. Your doctor will probably monitor you very closely with this pregnancy. And you can take care of 3 children after you deliver. As a mom, you will find you can do whatever you have to do. I would look into hiring a mother's helper for a few hours most days. They are usually a pre-teen who you pay to play and amuse your older children so you can get things done. You will find this a big help!
By the way, if you do find out you are pregnant, Congrats! I will tell you, it is very rare to get a false positive result, although it does happen. False negatives are much more common.

My son was 7 months old when I got pregnant again. I was bummed the whole pregnancy, scared of how hard it was going to be. But honestly it wasn't as hard as I thought, when our daughter was older and mobile and awake more, that's when the challanges started as out little boy was hitting the terrible two's. He will be 3 in January and she is now 17 months, and they are the best of friends. It will all work out!

First congratulations! I had four babies in three years. Yes all planned.
We wanted it that way. I see very baby as a blessing. As far as the
pre-eclampsia you will have to be watched carefully, but it will not
necessarily happen again. Your children will be very close growing up and
as adults have an incredible relationship. Hope this helps.

I had pre-eclamsia with my 27 year old, not so with my 26 year old, but did with my 16 year old-go figure!! The 27 and 16 year old were both girls-don't know if there's any correlation. And the older 2 were 17 months apart.
Good luck to you!!

In 10 years I had my six children, and the first two were 17 months apart...never had any problems health-wise.....so best wishes to you and your family. You will do fine.....

I know exactly how you feel! My two youngest daughters are 18 months apart, and my youngest was not planned! I had C-sections with all three of my girls, so that was my biggest concern. Mommy and baby were fine though. I never had pre-eclampsia so I don't know anything about that. As you said God had other plans, so you know He will take of you and your family. Just enjoy your little gift from God, and remember you are blessed during this time!

Congratulations to you!!!