Pregnant Fog Naming Question

Updated on August 10, 2009
A.D. asks from West River, MD
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Hi Ladies,
Ok, so by now I'm sure you are getting used to my strange inquiries about things that, if I was NOT pregnant, wouldn't take a moment's thought, or just wouldn't matter...but in my "brain fog" state, I just can't seem to think clearly! Ha! (I don't remember it being this bad with DD!) So a lighthearted question about naming our newest addition-to-be...

My husband and myself both have "A" names...A. and Andrew...our daughter is Brooke, and now we're considering naming our baby boy an "A" name, just because we like the name...(my husband is SET on a certain name), we actually tried hard to avoid "A" names, but just keep coming back to one. I am a little worried if it will seem wierd that only our daughter DOES NOT have an A name...or if she'll feel left out? Then I think, "She has no idea what are names actually are...we are Mom and Dad!" so she'd probably never even think of it!
Yep...yet again, I'm overthinking things. What do you think?

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C.M.

answers from St. Louis on

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I think you are overtinking things...she will not be upset the she does not have an "A" name like the rest of you. But beware, you may get some comments from other people regarding the fact that three of you have A names but I highly doubt it. In fact, I bet no one will notice!

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J.M.

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Coming from a fmaily who DID name like that... DONT DO IT!! LOL. The child without the A name WILL feel left out!!! LOL. I sooo felt left out when I was the only one without the same name letter as all of my other family memebers! Just a food for thought... I am 27 now and it still affects me :)

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R.M.

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I would name this baby whatever you and your husband agree on!!! You can really get yourself into a bind...sticking with certain "formulas" for naming your children. We have three daughters...the first two daughters names just happen to END with an A...( not by plan...it just happened that way) when I was pregnant with our third...my husband decided it would be nice to have a name that ended in an A ...AND was Irish in origin...lol luckily we were able to come up with one that fit both criteria AND that we liked!!! lol So...don't sweat the small things....like you say...to your daughter you are Mom and Dad....she will have no idea...unless you tell her!!!
Congratulations on the new little one to be!!
R. Ann

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K.G.

answers from Kansas City on

I think it depends on the story that will be told over the years as to how you chose the name. If, years from now, the story is that you both wanted to give your second child an "A" name because you both have "A" names, that would likely be hurtful to Brooke. However, if the history of your son's name is that you both like the name, it won't even be an issue that it happens to begin with the letter A.

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S.D.

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We all fumble over what to name our children if its a little or a lot,they'll have this name for the rest of their lives.My family isn't named after anyone and have no same letter intials either.
mom S. Diane
dad John Douglas
son Kenneth Spencer
daughter Cassidy LeAnn
daughter Abigail Claire
We all love their names and I was asked several times if i'm going to name them after their dad or someone I said no they are their own person with their own names.And left it at that.

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D.M.

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Just my own experience. My Husband and I are both D names our first son is Dylan (not because it started with D, it was between that and Tyler and he just looked like a Dylan when he was born.) Our second son is Jacob. When he was about 4 or 5 he asked why he was the only J in the family. So we named our third son Jason (not the best idea because Jacob and Jason sound alike when I am yelling LOL) So yes kids do notice those things.

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R.

answers from Kansas City on

I grew up in a family where my parents both have "J" names and my brothers both have "B" names. I was the only "R" and have never thought once about it (until I read your post, LOL). Not an issue. It is kind of nice being unique actually.

I wouldn't worry about it a bit.

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K.B.

answers from Wichita on

Good Morning A. ;) I really don't think it matters one way or another. I have a friend who has 9 children, all the kids names begin with "E" ( don't ask me to repeat them all lol ) Her oldest a girl (Erin) is 19 now and began a Christian band, they are awesome!! Her youngest a boy is 2 now. Going for number 10 Evangeline, Yvonne loves kids and even numbers...lol
Another friend named their children alphabetically.

If your both happy and agree on the name go for it.
So many awesome, cute, meaningful names to choose from!
Our eldest is Andrew (Drew), youngest is Travis ( Trav or his brother calls him sivart= Travis backwards) Hubby & I are both K's Keith & K.. I checked initials also, thank heavens none of them spell anything strange or funny...lol
We do have a Cab and Zab.

God Bless you A., looking forward to your next preggers Brain fog.. We've all been there if we are honest with our selves....lol
K. Nana of 5

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K.O.

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Dear A.,
Oh, isn't "pregnancy fog" so much fun--LOL! My husband and I both begin with K and had hoped for a boy and a girl (both with K names). God however had other plans and sent us four boys and we could not think of four K names that we both liked. In fact, after our first son, we could not agree on even one K name!
We ended up with our first son having a K name, our next two(twins) having J names and our youngest son having an R name. None of the boys seems to mind!
Probably the most important factors to consider are:
1) Do you and hubby both like the name?
2) Do the initials spell anything weird like "bum" or "bm" (bowel movement)where the child could be teased a lot?
3) Does the name rhyme with common words that might be offensive or make the child a target for teasing?
Best of luck and enjoy your new addition! Congratulations!
K.

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K.C.

answers from Wichita on

I say name your baby whatever you want to. Names should be individualized, regardless of what letter they begin with!

K.

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E.B.

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We had the a similar naming issue. My first two are Mason and Madison. For my third child we could not find an M name we liked, so we went with Preston. He is now 4 and thinks nothing of it. Sometimes other people with ask and I just say well they all end with an "on". I would not worry about it. Find a name that you love and it will be fine.

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L.B.

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Hi A.,
I think it would be appropriate to give the child a "C" name.
You and dad have the "A",
Daughter has the "B",
I think it's only natural to follow it up with a "C".
Next one is "D"...you see where I'm going with this...just don't too far down the alphabet :)
lb

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R.N.

answers from Kansas City on

Yes, you're overthinking it. :-) Just pick the name you love.

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N.H.

answers from Topeka on

Isn't it amazing the things that plague us? I go through things like this with all 3 of mine. There really is no right answer. I think it just depends on the child.
I can tell you that as a child I was upset that I didn't have a soda/pop name. My mother's nickname is Coke and my older brother's initials are R.C. I spent a lot of time and energy trying to get somebody to call me Sprite or something, anything really as long as it was a soda name! lol

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K.G.

answers from Kansas City on

I don't think you are overthinking this, I too had the same concerns. My husband and I both start with K's, and opted in the beginning to not do the K name thing. You should follow your gut. If you both love the "A" boy name, maybe come up with a "backup" name that you both like too. Then wait until he is born and decide then after you see him! Good luck!

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K.C.

answers from Kansas City on

I don't think you are over reacting at all! My Dad's family is Mary, Jerry, Gary, Larry & Terry! My sister and I are both K's like my Mom. I agree with the Mom that recommended a C name A, B & C. There are so many to choose from: Carter, Cole, Calvin, Conner, Carson....good luck with your new son! And, thanks for adopting the racing greyhounds ~ you have a great heart!

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M.C.

answers from Kansas City on

My husband's initials are JAC, mine are MAC, our oldest son's are BAC, but we couldn't for the life of us come up with an A middle name for our middle child, so his initials are JWC. Our daughter's are SAC. I worried that he would feel left out. Just the opposite. He's special! And I actually like his name better than the other two -- sshh, don't tell them! :)

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L.B.

answers from St. Louis on

I think when she realizes it she will feel a little left out. Not that it matters to life as a whole but she will. I have a step son and a natural son born in my month and then I have another natural son born in the month of their dad. My 2nd son was dissapointed that he wasn't born with the rest of us. Im sure as long as your love is equal it wont matter. But with first children they are going through things before the rest so it always seems like they are the ones who get it the worst. And then on top of that their name doesn't match! :)

God Bless,

L.

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K.M.

answers from Kansas City on

I know you've had a bunch of responses...but I wanted to add my 2 cents. Just pick a name you really like. I have friends that wanted 'M' names and by the time they got to child #4 they ended up with 'just a name' (Matthew) rather than one they really liked.

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M.S.

answers from Kansas City on

Why not try using a "B" name for middle name for your boy. You said your husband is set on one name already, why not like an "Avery Barrett", "Andrew Brent", or use "A" name for middle, like "Benjamin Allen", "Bradley Aaron".
I doubt you daughter will give much thought to it, whatever they grow up with is second nature anyway.
Have a healthy happy baby!

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