Pregnant Again? - Gilbert,AZ

My sister has a 7 year old and she now has a 8 month old. It wouks out wonderfully beacuse the 7 year old is independent and goes to school so she stays at home with the new baby. He also helps her out a lot with baby as well.. Hope you decide what you want!!! good luck with everything!

also i wanted to add that this sister of mine is 12 years older then me. As a kid i remember growing up in her room. I know that the crib i slept in was in her room and she took care of me. There are 6 of us kids. 1977, 1981, 1984, 1985, 1986, 1989. so there is a gap between me to all of my siblings.

My husband is the oldest of 3 boys. One is 5 years younger and the other is 15 years younger. I can say from talking with his Mom, it worked very well as the older sibling/s helped out a lot. Another plus is the baby experience that both of he older boys got. Sounds like your kiddos are old enough to ask their opinion as well. :)

I was almost 10 when my mom had our brother me and my sis are 14 months apart.Me and my brother have never been close I don't remember much of him he is now going on 21 we still aren't close he and my sis are.
I have 3 ages 7,3,1 I feel complete I don't want to add another.

My kids are 4 years apart and it is fabulous. I have two friends having thier second now and the age difference will be 6 years. I think tha tthe maturity the kids have will make them wonderful older siblings and give them great memories a younger child would not experience. They help, they can entertain themselves, and they learn compassion for others like no ther experience than having a newborn to toddler around can give.

I think kids adapt wonderfully, and I htink older kids adapt better than babies who have to share Mommy. However, YOUR life will change considerably. But, I have always heard "you never regret having a baby, you only regret not having one."

I think it really comes down to how you parent. You can foster closeness among them. You can foster competativeness. Families are all different and age is probably the smallest part of it.

My brother is 13 years older than I am, and we are very close. I remember being close to him when I was younger also, while we were living under the same roof. Of course when he moved out around 19 years old, it changed things a little. However, I always looked forward to him coming over and we maintained our close relationship. Currently, we talk at least a couple of times a week and we spend a lot of time together whenever we visit one another. The age difference worked out great for us! Also, I have another family member who has 2 kids, then there is a 7 year difference between the first two and the next two kids. It seems to be working out well for them, too. The older two kids love having the little ones around and love playing with them as they get older. It all depends on your family dynamic, but it is certainly possible for it to work out well. I would try bringing up the subject to your kids to see how they think they would feel about having another baby in the family. Your youngest will probably enjoy having a younger sibling and having a baby around since they were never able to have that experience. Good luck!

Mine are 17(Step), 16 1/2, 14, and 11 and the older ones all helped out with the youngest when he was born. I loved having my kids when I did as mine are all 3 years apart with the exception of the oldest 2 of the four kids.

I'm currently pregnant with baby number 3. But I have two boys currently that are 8 years apart. It has worked out great! My oldest couldn't wait for me to have a baby and after I had my 2nd son, my first was a huge help! Even now, they are 10 and 2.... my 10 year old is very protective of his younger brother and enjoys playing with him. I think this is an individual decision that only you and your family can make. Have you asked your children how they would feel about having another baby brother or sister? I would start there and see what the reaction is. Good Luck.

I have two girls ages 14 & 11, and my son is almost 4. When he was born our family changed for the better. I will admit that when he was born, it was an adjustment for all of us. A newborn takes a lot of time, and my older kids were a little jealous. However, that only lasted less than 6 months. By then, babies get easier and the older kids were able to help out more.

He has brought back the fun again and the silliness that toddlers & preschoolers have. It is so wonderful to watch my girls spend time playing with him. He has the best make-believe partners ever, and my girls often choose playing with him over other activities. They love their little brother, and we wouldn't have it any other way.

Our kids were13,11 & 9 we we had our 4th... They all were pretty darn excited, they all played with him, ... they all pitched in a little, even though they are were into sports. They were Not as excited when #5 came along (#4 & #5 are 11.5 months apart...oops)

My older brother is 5 years older than me, my younger 8 years younger... we all get along fine and I am glad we had the gap.

My brother and I are 2 yrs apart then there is a 6 yr gap then another brother and sister. It was like there were 2 seprate families. even to this day my younger 2 siblings are treated (babied/spoiled) differently than my brother and I were. I personally wouldnt do it and feel that if there wasnt so much space between my last 2 siblings we would have been closer. Also, it is true that the oldest siblings will "help" but as the oldest in my family I felt like I was the second Mom and did a lot of parenting. Im sure it was much easier for my parents to have the last 2 kids with our "help" but it wasnt very fair to us. dont get me wrong, I love all my siblings but I feel we would have had a different relationship... I still feel somewhat like their mom sometimes. I have 3 kiddos now with 3-4 yrs space apart (they are 8,5,and 18mo.) and even feel that the 4 yr apart is pushing it a little. I hope I dont upset anyone but just wanted to give my personal experience.

There's no crystal ball to tell how a new family member will change the family relationship dynamics. I've noticed over time that later in life the siblings with a good spread form deep bonds. I am one of 7 children and am closest to my sister who is 11 yrs younger than me. I have a 10 year gap and 3 year gap between my oldest and next two siblings. They adore and look up to their now college graduate sister and she knows they look up to her. It make her a better person. Her influence and choices are are and will forever be a huge influence on them.

I am wondering if your children have expressed any interest in adding a new family member? My two youngest asked for the last 5 years or so for a another brother /sister. If I had been younger it would have been a definite yes.