J.C.
Mom, this is not pre-tween behavior, it is misbehavior. Have you and Dad sat down with him and had a serious talk about why he is behaving so badly? Has something happened at home over the summer, a move, a loss of family member or friend, job loss or marital problems? If you have not had this talk it needs to happen today. Just curious,what are the consequences of your son misbehaving at school?. THere need to be some and they need to be very meaningful to him. Loss of TV, computer time, electronic and video games and the things he likes to do the most. WIthold these for at least 24 hrs based on the incident. Let him know in advance what they are and out it in place tomorrow. Remember, both you and Dad need to be on the same page enforcing this. I might also look into enrolling your son in a class for kids of martial arts, either taekwondo or karate as a reward in a few months if his behavior gets better. In a motn I'd take him to a studio./school to ck out one of the classes and talk it up. Let the Master (Head Teacher) know all about the school poor behavior issues are with your son confidentially when you go to enroll in the class and tell him you need help with this behavior. It is great exercise and they teach personal responsibility, perseverance, respect of self and other and lots of good things related to character education. You need to act on his poor behavior now Mom and Dad, it should not be tolerated. Good luck with this. you can do it.