Potty Traning? - Tremonton,UT

Based on what you write, I think the only thing you are doing wrong is having tried so hard to train her for the past year. That's an entirely different dynamic than waiting to train her until she's ready. She has a whole year of frustration (yours and hers) and failure to deal with now, and so she may understandably feel quite a bit of resistance that may not have needed to be there.

How about telling her that it's up to her, and then putting her back in diapers. She may need a week or a month to be sure you mean it. Then she'll be able to start deciding for herself if she's ready. She may not be, but probably will be sometime in the next several months. Readiness must be both physical and emotional. You can't make her go if she won't, or can't.

Yep, it could still be a long time to wait, but it will be so much less stressful for both of you if you give her the space she needs. For most kids, when they are truly ready, they are excited about it and essentially train themselves. But your daughter has an ego to defend, and it sounds like you've put her in a position where she believes she needs to defend it.

Well to me the important thing is this: that holding the bladder and not peeing for so long.... can cause damage to the kidneys... and urinary infections. I had a classmate as a child, that got Kidney problems because she'd hold her bladder too long and not go....her kidneys got damaged. And once damaged... you can't fix it.

And yes, trying for an entire YEAR... is way too long.

Your daughter will get it when she is ready.
My son, was already 3 years old... when "he" got it...and started going on his potty chair.
Until then, my son, would just hold it and not pee either... unless he had his diaper on. Which is not good. Or we left him naked on the bottom. So, until he actually TOLD us... he wanted to go on the potty chair... we did not force it.
He even told us loudly "IT IS MY BODY!!!!"

A child, may know something mentally, but that does not mean they can do it. It also has to do with their physiology and their organ maturity and body/brain signals. You can explain to her all you want... until you are blue in the face. But... the child will not just get it... nor do it.... until they can read their body... and then coordinate that with going on the potty....

Oh, also, nap time and night time 'dryness' is something entirely different... and does NOT occur, at the same time as daytime pottying. For night time, dryness is not something that is attained until even 7 years old... and is normal. It has to do with biological maturity...

all the best,
Susan

I used the 3 day potty training book by Lora Jensen, and I LOVE IT. I would suggest trying. It completely centers around love and consistency, but it gives step-by-step directions so it is easy to follow. My son was potty trained in 3 days, and my daughter in just a day and a half.

I also believe that any child can be potty trained in a matter of days with the right technique - but waiting until the child is ready will make it a much more enjoyable process!

your doing it right trust me. try running bath water it tends to make them need to pee. also try sticking her hand in warm water. dont force it. watch her body language. put her in potty pants all kids have a tale tale when they need to go. wether its dancing holding a face they make etc. let her have accidents and just watch her body language for a couple of days. figure out what her tale tale is. wether hiding behind the sofa or what. you are on the right track just be patient. watch and learn. :) good luck

Sounds like my DD, who turned 3 a few months ago. I would also look into the 3-day potty training program by Laura Jenson. I have and it makes a lot of sense, but we just have not taken the time to actually implement it (it states it can take up to 3 days but you basically stay home, not go anywhere, and we just haven't had 3 days where we have been able to work on it).

Also, it sounds goofy, but one idea I heard somewhere was to actually cut a hole in the diaper and have them practice sitting in the potty. Sometimes the child feels more secure going in their diaper and the potty is too scary - the diaper is still there but the waste products end up in the potty.

Have you asked your sitter what is different in the processes? Have you had your daughter look in the toilet when you are done and say bye bye to the pee or poop? Explaining that our bodies don't need it? I have heard of some kids being afraid of it going away, but since she does it at the sitter's, I think it is something more in the process difference. For us, it was that at daycare, time was up, time to go. At home, we seemed to be nagging more. Using a timer helped too. We would go every hour if he went, and if he didn't, then 20 minutes later until he went.

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Have you asked your sitter what is different in the processes? Have you had your daughter look in the toilet when you are done and say bye bye to the pee or poop? Explaining that our bodies don't need it? I have heard of some kids being afraid of it going away, but since she does it at the sitter's, I think it is something more in the process difference. For us, it was that at daycare, time was up, time to go. At home, we seemed to be nagging more. Using a timer helped too. We would go every hour if he went, and if he didn't, then 20 minutes later until he went.

HI--
I don't think you're doing anything wrong. I think she just simply isn't ready. Some kids do it later than others. My older son didn't even start potty training until after he turned three. He had diaper days and underwear days--always his choice. Then just after he turned 3 1/2 he became a big brother. He decided that he was a big boy and was fully potty trained with no help whatsoever from me within two days. That was that. He's never even gone once in his pants. I just think she isn't ready. I would stop all together and let her initiate it. She clearly knows what it is now. Take the stress off her all together and she'll probably tell you when she wants to go. And as a friend of mine who is a PA put it, it's not like she'll go to kindergarten in diapers. So don't worry...she'll do it when she's ready, and probably not one second before :-)
Again, you aren't doing anything wrong!
J.