Potty Trainning Help - Chattanooga,TN

I answered a similar question a few hours ago so am going to copy & paste most of my answer:

OK, I was skeptical but I tried the advice on this site:
http://www.rogerknapp.com/medical/pottytrainingrefusals.htm
and it worked : )

I started training my guy at 22 months and his main thing was he wasn't going to poop in the potty, he would do it if and when he chose, once on the carpet, ewwww, and he was becoming a master at holding it, not good! I tried stickers, a reward chart, Matchbox cars, Thomas the Train underwear, even Jelly Bellys, (and I am against using food as a reward, lol) and none of it worked more than a time or two. We stopped training twice and then I read the suggestions on this site and put them to use...the key was the "power incentive."

Basically, all rewards work for some children, none of them work for all children, and for some meeting the goal of being potty trained is the reward in itself. So what may work for other parents won't necessarily work for you and your daughter. You, as her parent, have to find THE one "power incentive" that will motivate YOUR daughter, not another child. For my guy it was a "Toy Story" DVD. I owned it (otherwise, per the advice, he would have lost interest in complying with training as he would have attained the material prize) and when he pooped in the potty he was allowed to use it 30-60 minutes, and only then. I kid you not, within a day and a half he was running to the potty to poop so as to not go on himself! This was shortly before he turned 2.5.

Adding for you, M.:
Your daughter isn't emotionally ready. This doesn't mean you can't try to train her, just that it will take longer, maybe much longer, until her emotions catch up to her physical readiness. She is saying she's a baby, so go along with that. Tell her than babies wear diapers/pull-ups, and she will wear them as long as she poops on herself. Send her in pull-ups to school until she desires to be a big girl. Point out the things she is missing out on by still being in the 2 year old class, give her more responsibilities at home (it all works together to help them mature) and find her "power incentive," I can't stress that enough.

Then relax, because she has learned she can control her body and it's functions, no matter how much you want her to poop in the potty she is going to hold it until she is good and ready and feels she has a reason to stop being a baby.

I wish I had an answer but I am having the opposite problem. My 3 year old daughter only poops in the potty, she won't pee. And I have tried everything that you have. I look forward to seeing the replies you get.

Perhapse as her why she won't go poop in the potty. A lot of kids are afraid to poop in the potty. Once she explains her reasoning to you, talk to her to make sure she knows it's OK. Then when she does do it, dang near throw a party. Call all the relatives & have them make over her on the phone. But I'd start with talking to her to find out why.

Good luck! Potty training can be tough. :)

Read the Everybody Poops book to her. Also, just talk to her about the process: when you feel pressure, we need to put our poop in the potty, when we don't, we get constipated and a really bad stomach ache, etc.

I have no answer for you, but I can commiserate. Change your daughter to my son and it's exactly the same -- even the saying "I'm a baby." He absolutely 100% refuses. We just tried this weekend to go hardcore and he held it for 2 days. No reward works, even something he really really wants. His bathroom is a veritable toy and candy store. But, I know too many people who wound up with months or years of enemas and fear of it hurting after holding so long, so we are just going to wait a few weeks and try again. But, if you get the answer, let me know!

My son was in the same boat and is still working on it. We bought him something he REALLY wanted (color changing Matchbox cars) and let him look at them -- inside the package -- only when he was sitting on the toilet trying to poop. We told him that as soon as he pooped on the toilet he could open and play with them. It took two days of this (during which he help his poop in until I put a pull-up on him at night), but eventually he did it. Since then, it'e been a mixed bag -- about 50/50 pooping on the toilet vs. in his pull-up at night. Every time he poops in a pull-up I tell him I need to take his color changers away until he poops in the toilet again. I let him hold the cars when he's on the toilet, then take them and put them up on a shelf if he doesn't poop. And if he poops in the toilet, he's excited to play with the cars again.

I don't get upset with him about it -- the sole consequence of pooping in a pull-up revolves around the color changing cars. Good luck!

I would not make wearing a pull up a punishment, that is setting yourself up for her wanting to wear panties at night time and you needing her to wear a night time pull up. It is so much easier for you and her when she can go in the bathroom and pull her pull up down by herself when she needs to go.

I would just sit on the potty while she is sitting on the potty and take some craft or a book to read. Leaver her there all afternoon if needed. She needs to get over this "hump" to understand it is a natural thing to do.

Reading to her, playing little games, etc...something to make the time in the bathroom not punishment but distracts her from the poop coming out is what I am talking about.