Potty Training Troubles - Pasco,WA

All children pee before they are ready to poop during potty training. She's just not ready to go poop in the potty just yet. At 2 1/2 you are very blessed to have her peeing in the potty. Give her a little more time but the next time that she poops in her panties, make her wait to be cleaned up. (Like, not more than 5 minutes) but make her wait and she will hate being in the stinky, wet and mushy panties. Let her dump the poop into the potty and flush it. Let her do what she can to clean herself. Good luck!!!

i had the exact same issue with 2 of my kids. i know it sounds sooooo cheesy but a sticker chart works wonder! i finally got a poster board using their fav color wrote their name at the top. i decorated it with the things they like and made columns for each day. we went to the store and let them pick stickers they liked. everytime they went pee pee they got one sticker poopoo 2 stickers and if they went when we were out of the house 2 stickers. when they did have accidents i didnt make it a big deal but just drew an x in the box where the sticker should have been. at first i used rewards for filling the chart but soon found that the stickers alone were enough motivation. i dont know how it works for other kids but it took about 1-2 weeks until we had complete success!

now i use the same method for almost everything that seems challenging, it works everytime!

My daughter did the same thing! She would often get mad at me for asking her if she needed to use the potty. I would suggest NOT interrupting her during (you don't want her to hold it in and refuse to go), and instead take her into the bathroom afterwards and empty the poop into the potty.

Make sure to remind her gently that that is where poop goes and she can let mommy know when feels like she has to go.

It will happen, she just needs to consistently put the feeling with the action. My daughter just kind of picked up on it and started doing it a few weeks later.

All I can say is give her positive reinforcement when she does go potty correctly and give it time. My daughter will be 4 in a couple of weeks and we are still fighting the potty issue some. We've been potty training off and on since she was about 2. We had to stop at least twice when we met with extreme resistance. She just wasn't ready. She pees in the potty just fine, but poop has always been an issue. Our daughter has had at least 2 bouts with severe constipation and withholding. She also did the same thing you describe of hiding and then telling us to go away when she was trying to hold in a poop or was going in her pants. We finally had to take her to the doctor and she is now on a Miralax regimen so that going poop isn't such a trial for her. Right now, we have a chart and if she poops in the potty, she gets a happy face sticker. If she gets more happy faces than sad faces, she's getting a Leapster for her birthday. Right now it's working, but after October 13th all bets are off. I'm hoping that she will just keep it up because she's a big girl and that's what big girls do. Your daughter will get there. It just takes time. I know how frustrating it can be when everyone says to relax, but it's true. There is nothing you can do to make it happen any faster. Just be positive and let her decide when she is ready.

I think there are two ways to reward a potty-trainer- a reward for going potty or a reward for not having accidents. She might be at the point where she knows to go but hasn't taken responsibility for staying dry all day. Maybe you should give her a reward before bedtime if she didn't have any accidents all day.
It also helps to throw away your old reward system and start with something new and different. If you were giving a reward every time, now just do a sticker chart with a big prize after a few weeks.
I would also make sure she helps with the clean-up of accidents. Kids have to learn they are in charge of going potty and if they miss, they need to be responsible in the clean-up. It makes them realize that they've got to take responsibility for going when it's time.

we're in the same boat with our 2 3/4 year old. She uses the potty all day at daycare, but waits to come home to poop. She asks for a pull-up so she can go hide and poop. I asked her pediatrican and (very experienced) daycare provider, and they both said that it's a simple case of "not ready yet". They suggested not to push the issue because then it turns into a control issue and she could do things like withold, deliberate accidents, etc.

So, for now, we tell her she can take off her panties and put on a pull-up when she has to make a poop. She is aware enough to know when she's going, and fortunate enough to be a very regular kid! Her big reward when she is ready is a trip to Chuck E Cheese. She knows this, and it motivates her to try, but I think she doesn't like the sitting position. She still likes to squat.

It will happen! Be positive and encouraging and patient. In addition to the goodie bag, the reward chart might also be a good idea, but researchers have found both tend to provide more of a short-term boost to motivation and fizzle out after a while. We discovered just that!