Potty Training Relapse?

I also have a daughter about to turn four. She hasn't used the toilet since baby sister was born so I was convinced it was regression. She never complains that it hurts, we could never get a reason why she was having accidents. I finally took her to the doctor this week, told them I was 85% sure it was intentional but could they check to be sure, and they are running tests.

So, long-winded, I'd have them do a urinalysis because it doesn't have to be a bladder indfection to be a physical problem. HTH.

Is she growing or working on a new skill? Sometimes kids regress a little when they are working on new skills. And sometimes kids out grow their bladders a little which can cause them to not be able to hold it anymore during the night.

I found out my child was afraid of being in the bathroom by herself "fear" of being alone also there are no window's "light" in her bathroom since she is not tall enough to turn on the light by herself so I was frustrated not understanding she just needed to feel safe by having the light on and reassuring her by having the light on.. can't believe it turned out to be something that simple.

Has she had a growth spurt recentley? Sometimes their bodies grow faster than thier organs and they can have more accidents, especially when they are sleeping. Invest in some "Goodnites" big kid diapers for bed time, if it continues in those it is beyond her control. Most little girls would be upset to have to wear diapers again, so she wont do it unless she cant help it.

Good Luck

i agree with ami to have the dr. check for any infection...other than that all you can do is keep up the positive encouragement when she does go...many children go through this...you can try going back to the pull-ups at night or try putting plastic pants over her panties...they don't feel quite as nice when they get wet...she may just be checking to see what will happen if she stops using the potty...especially girls get so curious about people's reactions regardless of whether they are positive or negative...the attention can be fun for them...so try not to stress the accidents as much as praise her when she does use the potty...she'll get there...i have a sweet, sassy, smart HANDFUL of a three year old girl as well...so today i will encourage you that you can make it through this...maybe tomorrow you will have to remind me i can too!...good luck!

Especially since it's happening while she's sleeping, I don't think it's an issue of her not trying, or even having that much control over it, so punishment is not going to work, because she is probably not enjoying this either. I would ask the pediatrician to check for a bladder infection, even if she's not having pain, and if that's not it, ask the doctor for advice. Another thing to look at is if there has been any kind of change or emotional stress for her or for your family lately: a move, illness, schedule change, something else that she's too young to understand but is stressing you and your husband? Any of that can have an effect. You can also try limiting or eliminating fluids for an hour before naptime and bedtime and making sure she's going to the bathroom immediately before bedtime and naptime. Good luck!
T.