Hi Ladies
I have been working with my daughter on potty training. It was a rough start the first weekend but going good now. Daycare has her on the potty once every hour and its a hit and miss. At daycare if she is not on the potty she is still in a diaper. I pretty much have her sitting on the potty every 30 mins at home and she gets to wear her 'big girl panties" (or as she calls them "big guuurl pennies". I give her 1 M&M for sitting and she gets 2 M&Ms and a smarty if she goes potty. She sits on the potty and will GO if she has to no problem. I am having a hard time getting her to make the connection that she actually HAS to go...so unless i tell her to sit and push, she will just pee on her "big girl" panties...she doesnt even seem to care if they are wet either. Sometimes she want them off, sometimes not. She Notices when she wets them because she holds herself but onces she is done peeing its like nothing happend. Any advice?? I am sure it will come in time (repeat repeat repeat) but was wondering if I could do something to help her achieve the milestone. Oh and is this the normal process kids go through?
Sounds like she may not be fully ready yet. When she is ready she will almost completely train herself, no joke. Just keep doing what you are doing but you might want to change out rewards to stickers or something, just a thought.
she doesnt seem fully ready yet. my 3 1/2 year old is only day trained and just day trained shortly after her 3rd birthday. maybe back it off for a month but continue to let her try at day care as long as shes not resisting it. i hope this helps :)
You8 sound like YOU are doing everything right, but I wonder if SHE is really ready yet. Like the PP said, once they are "ready" it will be a pretty quick process. Right now what you are describing kind of sounds like it's a hit or miss that could be reproduced with any child, regardless of age! The plan on your end is well-thought-out and great, but, like I said, I think she may not be ready or "into" it yet.
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L.,
I definitely think at her age she is ready. Look into the 3 day Potty Training Method. I went cold turkey into panties and it took a few days but then my daughter got it. I do have to put a pull-up on her at night but it wasn't an option the rest of the day. LOTS of encouragement both verbally as well as rewards such as M&M's and stickers. It would probably be best to do this over the weekend since the daycare probably isn't going to want to change her several times throughout the day, but she will be doing much better after the weekend. Good luck!
It doesn't sound like she is ready. It does take awhile for them to KNOW that they have to go, but when I ask my son (while he is sitting on the potty), if he has to poop, or pee, he gets this look like he is trying, and then says yes or no. Most of the time he just does whatever it is he has to do. You may try going back to diapers, until she chooses to wear underwear and wants to use the potty in order to get to.
I also suggest the 3 Day Potty Training and taking a weekend to dedicate to this effort. Their philosophy is that the child goes to the potty when they have to go or you rush them to the potty as soon as you catch them in the act. You do not have them sit on the potty on a regular schedule, etc. This teaches them to read the signs of when they have to go. In the beginning, they will tell you that they have to go a lot more than they actually do but it is all a process. The trips to the bathroom get fewer each day. This method worked great with my son, however, he was 3 1/2. My daughter will be 2 in a few weeks and I am thinking I will dedicate a weekend sometime after the first of the year. Good luck!
Totally normal. Recognizing the urge to go is a milestone that happens a different ages for different kids. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Be sure to focus on the positive and avoid making her feel bad about wetting her panties. You are right about the repeat repeat repeat part. You guys are going to be fine and before you know it you will leave the diapers and wet panties behind. Right now just stay focused and positive.
P.S. If you get too frustrated there are lots of great books out there...lots of people have disagreed with me in the past, but Dr. Phil helped me potty train two kids in less than a week. You might Google his method if you need some additional arsenal. Good Luck!
I would not have her sit on the potty so often. I worked with my daycare provider to train my daughter. They had her sit on the potty at 9am, 11, before nap, after nap and at 4. When she got in a regular pattern like that she adjusted to needing to go then and did not go in between. She knew when it was time and just held it until it was time after a couple of weeks.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, but it worked. Good luck
