Potty Training My Daughter Won't Pee

My daughter is 3 1/2 and I am in the same position. Frustrating, huh? I did get her to pee on the potty three times a couple weeks ago, but I decided to back of due to her hysterical screaming. She does not want to sit on a small potty or a big potty; she uses her underware like a diaper and has done some serious damage to the house with her accidents; she likes to look at the reward chart but doesn't care about the rewards; she has tried to convince me to stop going to the bathroom on the toilet and suggested I wear diapers too. She is stubborn and high strung so nothing other parents suggest works. I called her pediatrician today. She told me to stop training for 6-8 weeks and then have her pick out her underware and tell her it is her responsbility to sit on the potty when she has to go. When she goes, she gets a wrapped present. I don't know. I'll try it. It's still a variation of what I have been doing. She is in the biggest size of Easy-ups, so unless she plans on not growing, she is going to have to use the potty.

In regard to your situation, my pediatrician would likely adivce you to either stop the potty traiing for 6-8 weeks or gradually introduce underware into her training. Maybe have her wear it for three or four hours in the day for a while and then put her in a diaper or Pull-up if she still hasn't gone so that doesn't develop a UTI. Keep extending the time in underware if she starts to use the potty on her own? If we push them too hard, the potty training can backfire.

We did a sticker chart at our house. She is old enough to understand rewards. After 5 stickers my son got a treat, a snow cone. It really helped.

I can't help you much but am curious to see what other mama's out there have to say. I too am in the same boat. My daughter was 3 in April and she will go hide to go potty or if I stay by her she will just dribble in her panties and tell me she went just a little but then will not go on the potty only in her diaper! I don't want to push either but I really feel like she is capable and ready at this point. Good Luck!

When we trained our girls, we started with a kitchen timer, that was called the "potty clock". We set the clock for 30 minutes, and when it rang, we exitedly yelled "its potty time" and all ran into the bathroom. Sometimes they'd sit on the potty, especially at the beginning. We'd give it a few minutes, leave the bathroom and set the clock for another 30 minutes. This became exciting to them, and each time it rang they eventually starting to go in by themselves. This took about two weeks and they were completely trained, starting off strict at first and not deviating from the 30 minutes. This may help with her holding it, eventually her body will give in and she'll go, especially when she's running in the bathroom every half hour. You'll be so releived once she's trained!!!

We also bought this cool purple foaming soap for them to wash their hands, and these cool kid "wipes" for wiping after they go poop. The girls weren't allowed to use the cool wipes unless they went poo on the potty. We used these tricks for a couple months, and then went back to normal soap and wipes. Good luck.

She might have some fear. Try a treasure box. Fill it with very cheapie goodies from the dollar store and tell her when she goes potty she gets to pick something. Make a big deal of it, have her help decorate the box, dont' show her everything that's in the box. That was what finally tipped the scales for us with our 3 year old son.

Wow - you sound just like us! We were getting SO frustrated. Our 3 year old son would hold it for 12 - 14 hours! We definitely knew he had the control, but was almost scared to go. He'd sit for an hour on the toilet, but just hold it. He only went in his bed and of course, flood everywhere! Very aggravating. We asked our pediatrician if it was going to cause any damage by him holding it, and she assured us that this was normal, and he would not get an UTI. He'd have to go eventually - and would relieve himself from any infection. So many people told us, just wait - he'll go when he's ready. Unfortunately, that's what turned out to be true. It's VERY frustrating to wait and wait until your 3 year old is ready to make up their mind, but once you do - it's a miracle! I seriously almost cried the first time my son made up his own mind that it was time to go potty all by himself - went to the bathroom - and went in the toilet - all on his own! Our ped also recommended complete removal of all diapers. This was his crutch. Once it was gone (even at bedtime!) it moved up the demand to go on the toilet. Hope this helps... try to be patient.

Reward, reward, reward....I can't say it enough. This is what worked for us for both peeing and pooping. Because you may conquer the peeing but the pooping may take a little longer. Our daughter is like me and has a sweet tooth as well as loves stickers. So we gave her a choice each time she went pee. She got either a sticker or 3 smarties. The smarties and stickers worked for peeing but she needed more convincing for the pooping so we went to dum dum lollipops...this worked like a charm. Almost too good cause I think she would "space" out her poops so she could get more lollipops...we quickly caught on. Anyway, I am a firm believer that with potty training rewards work wonders. Good Luck!!!

We potty trained my older daughter using a potty chart - I made a grid on a piece of paper and we put stickers on it whenever she used the bathroom. When she reached x number of stickers, she got a prize from the treasure box (full of toys from the dollar store) or we went somewhere fun.

My younger daughter (who will be three in August) was using the potty really well, then stopped. I am about to start the potty chart for her as well. I thought about trying the underwear thing with the two year old, but she is very stubborn, and I don't think it would bother her if she messed up the panties or not.

Another thing is to not make too big of a deal about it. If you have been talking about it to her a lot, give her a few days off, then try a different reward system. If you talk about it constantly, it can cause them to rebel.

Another thing would be to put her around other kids her age who are potty trained. Kids are great mimics and love to be like other kids.

I just potty trained my son (he will be 3 in Sept.) in one day!! I was totally amazed at how well he did. My other son potty trained in three days as well. This is what worked for me: I saw a clip on the "Today" show about potty training by Wendy Sweeney. It's called the Booty Camp. You can view the clip online and you can look up Booty Camp online as well. Basically, you set up the potty and tell the child what you expect out of him/her and allow the child to be in control of his/her body. You tell them "if you have to go pee/poo, here is the potty. But if you pee/poo on the floor you will be responsible for cleaning up the mess. You make the child get down (with parent help) and clean up the mess. They must take their dirty undies to the laundry basket and throw away the paper towel that they used to clean up the mess. You never ask the child if they have to use the potty, you allow them to be in control of their own body. It seemed harsh at first for me to make my kids clean up the mess, but it totally worked!! Hopefully you will get the chance to look this up online. This program really does work! I wish you the best of luck with your little girl!