Potty Training My 20 Month Old

Good for you, Mom! Here in the US we let our children make the decision when they will be trained so often ignore the signs they ARE ready and have struggles later.

I imagine that public restrooms are just not familiar to her like the one at home, and think it may just take awhile for her to get used to them. Being only 20 months the regular toilet may seem huge to her as it does to my 27 month old, so I'm planning on getting this folding seat that's cushier than most, says it won't pinch and is affordable.
http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Cushie-Traveler.html

The concept of pooping does seem to take longer, it did with my daughter, and one thing I've found that helps is taking her in the bathroom when you go and having her sit on her potty at the same time, so she sees you doing it all from sitting down to washing your hands. And, I believe it will just come naturally from observation and increased awareness of her body's sensations. You're 4 months away and she may get it by then ; )

I started training my son at that age as well and he was done in a couple of months. It does take a lot of perseverance and patience, but it was totally worth it. I hate people telling me that I pushed him, when he was showing clear signs of readiness and is not the least bit traumatized. I don't understand why some parents feel the need to wait until after their kid is 3, the rest of the world potty trains at 18 months.

Anyway, back to your question. My son doesn't have much of an issue with public bathrooms unless they are really dirty. Then we walk in and he says "No mommy, dirty potty" and there is not convincing him to go, even standing up. The only suggestion I had was that we always keep his little potty in the car when we go on outings so that if he has to go I know we have an option, even if it means going back to the car.

I believe it will come naturally with age. I offered pennies to my son when he went potty. It was a great motivator for him and he was completely potty trained 4 months after he turned 2. Good luck!!!

PS. I'm planning on potty training my youngest soon and he's 14 months old. I've mentioned it and got negative responses from family. This is my fifth child and he's showing signs of being ready (dry a lot, hates being wet or poopy and fights me when I try to change him.) I don't think you're being pushy at all. Good luck!!

Well I know that my son was very intrested in potty training before he was 2. I had him potty trained with no accidents for about 3 weeks. Then one day he just stopped going potty in the toilet and had no intrest in the potty. So I gave him a break and started back when he was ready.

When the time came for him to start again I used what I think you called a potty reducer for in the public bathrooms. The one we used folded so when we were done we could folded it up and put in a ziplock bag and put it in his bag. It was very helpful.

We got one that had pooh bear on it that was the only one that was not pink lol . He liked going poo on pooh. hahah Just get one that is pretty or get a white one and let her help you decorate it. That might be fun for her.. Then she might enjoy going on it??

My son did not like public restrooms initially - apparently it was one or two incidents with the automatic flush toilets that scared him. He couldn't tell which ones would flush by themselves. I started bringing post its and covering the little electric eye. He was also 25 months so we had to bring along a portable toilet seat cover so he wouldn't fall in. The first one we bought was a little too unsteady and that slowed him down a little too. We found a better one and that pretty much solved the problem. Have you asked her what the problem is? After DS got over his fears, we got to visit just about every public restroom in every place we went for at least a year. Port a johns (sp?) too.

first of all, i don't believe that the average child is potty trained before 2. so if you have this much done, be thankful and don't push it. in time she will get over her issues and finish the job, likely around the age of 3. it takes patience, not pushing.

edit: I never said that you were pushy. If you wanted "yes please only agree with me" responses, there is a way to ask for it. you asked for advice. this is my advice due to my experience in potty training 4 children. the boys took until after the age of 4, the girls were 3 and 4. it took lots of patience and letting the children do it when they were ready. if you don't like my advice, then ignore it. it's a free country and you are free to do so. best of luck to you!