Potty Training Issues - Lakeside,CA

Hi my name is J. and I am a mother of 4. I dont know if this will help but I let my 2 year old run around the house without anything on, you know, no diaper or undies, just a t- shirt. She's been doing all of her business in her potty for about 4 months now. Once in awhile there is a potty accident, but never the poop:) Today she actually went in there by herself and went both. I tried her taking a nap in her panties and the first time was fine but the second time we wernt so lucky:(

Hope it helps and good luck
J.

Hi there, I'm M.. I'm a preschool teacher, and what we tell parents who are having this same issue is to take diapers away completely, so they have to use the toilet. If they have a poo-poo accident, and they will, they are the ones who have to clean it up. It gets old having to clean it up after every accident, so they usually catch on pretty fast. When they are cleaning it up, be there to supervise, but make sure you don't help them. This will let them see you mean buisiness! Just remember to be consistant! Even if you're out in public, make them clean up after themselves and don't carry diapers around. If you change the rules and let them wear diaper in public that will just confuse them. They will probably throw a fit, but the whole issue is a control thing with them. Hope this helps!
~M.

I had the same exact problem with my daughter. Just wait till she is ready. I had her ask for a diaper when she had to poop and than every once in awhile I would say we had none and she had to go in potty. If she threw a fit I would finally give in saying I found one. Than I would wait some more and try again. When she was about 3 1/2 it finally worked and now she is fine with it. Good luck I now it is frustrating!

My daughter did the same thing. She would pee flawlessly, then say, "mom I have to poop, can I have a diaper?" and poop in the diaper. If I said, "poop in the potty" she would withhold and get completely constipated. All I can say is "this too shall pass" (ha ha)... It took my daughter a FULL YEAR of this behavior before she finally got up the courage or whatever to poop in the potty. She went to preschool, too, and she'd hold it all day. She is 5 now and still waits until she gets home so that I can wipe her... so the saga continues.

My 6 year old and 3 year old were absolute cake when I finally decided it was time to get serious! I had the most trouble with my first she wasn't potty trained until 3 1/2! What I did with both so far is we went as a family and bought her big girl potty chair and made a huge deal out of it! Then we brought it home and put in in the living room! After a few days we moved it halfway down the hall, then a few more days later we moved it in the bathroom. It took her about two weeks before she was confident enough in what she was doing! But, After two weeks we had it down and she didn't wear pullups or anything unless we left the house! I hope this helps! I think I realized how insane potty training was when I started to potty train and everyone and there brother was telling me there "techniques"......At the end of the day no matter what you try just keep it possitive and keep encouraging!! Make a huge deal out of it let her know that this is one way to make mommy very excited! Good Luck!

I have 2 ideas
1) have her watch you go poop, the obvious answer.
2) My son never used the potty consitently until his Papa had a heart to heart with him and ever since he has been doing it. This is only pee-pee but is there another family member or close friend she "adores" that maybe could get on her level and try.

Dont know if this helps and I was SHOCKED it worked for my son, but cant hurt to try.

Best of luck.
Happy belated mothers day
C.

Dear K.,

The bowel muscles do not react to treats. Dr. Oz on Oprah's show recently explained that they, the bowel muscles cannot be forced - they have to work because they need to AND they feel that their human is in a safe place. It is called the Safe Harbor reaction. So you just need to notice what time of day that she poops in her panties, and then try to get her to the potty around that time. Also, is she sitting on top of the toilet with a pottie chair? I am wondering if children feel safe up that high, but since she pees, then she probably feels comfortable up that high.

That is all I know. Good Luck, C. N.

I heard on Dr Phil or somewhere on tv, that every morning you should ask your child "do you want to wear big girl panties or a diaper today?" Then it is their choice. It took my daughter forever to completely potty train but that seemed to work. She had the control over the issue, and that's kind of what it is, a control issue.

My husband and I bribed our two who are old enough with money to use the toilet. We had one set amount for pee and slightly higher for poop. Once they were fully trained, we switched it from paying them to go potty, to paying them to do their chores. So far, it's worked.