My son will be 3 in February and about 7 weeks ago he got into his dresser and put his underwear on. I took it as a sign he wanted to potty train so we went with it. I took him to the potty every 30 minutes and he peed and even pooped with many misses along the way. 3 weeks into it he started having better control so we moved to 45 minutes now we are up to 60-90 minutes. However pooping is a big issue. He almost never makes it to poop in the potty. He has chronic diarrhea which we are working with drs to solve why but he poops almost liquid several times a day. He passes gas and a little comes out so I dont know if he just doesnt have control or just doesnt know the difference between poop and gas or is just to young or whats going on. Also I have to remind him to pee most of the time he hasnt caught on to go by himself but sometimes he will go by himself. If I lose track of time he will pee himself and the last few days its almost like he has had a regression. He was doing so well with pee but now he misses every other time. Should I give up and put him back into diapers and all my hard work wasted? I dont like pull-ups either so I usually only use them when we go out shopping so I do A LOT of laundry lately. I really dont know what Im doing here. Advice is needed please.
This might sound terrible, but bribery worked for us... I let my son pick out a really big, super fun toy, and I kept it on top of the refrigerator where he could see it (but not play with it) until he was potty trained. Believe me, it worked in less than one week!
If you think of it as "hard work wasted," you'll only cause yourself (and probably your son) unnecessary stress. It's great that he took some initiative and gave it a good try. It also sounds like you were behind the experiment more than he was. I'm guessing he's just not ready yet, particularly with the diarrhea problem that's so hard for him to make physical sense of.
I'd put him back in diapers. Keep talking about the benefits of potty training, and tell him you are confident that when he's ready, he'll be able to do it. Ask him (or have one of his toys ask him) to tell you what he's feeling when you notice he's doing something in his diaper, so that he'll gradually learn to recognize the signals.
I've known quite a few kids who were allowed to go back to diapers after an early try at training. And quite a few who were allowed to use diapers for pooping until they figured that out – it did NOT confuse them; it put more control in their reach, which is the whole point of potty training, if you think about it.
Some kids don't successfully train until after four, so he's still got plenty of time for his body and nervous system to mature. Kids do want to train when they are ready, and when your little guy gets all his ducks in a row, it will probably happen pretty quickly – and for keeps. Every child I've known who has waited until he/she wanted to be trained pretty much trained themselves in anywhere from immediately to two weeks, with few accidents every day. It's as natural a developmental step as walking and talking, and as desirable to the child.
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Every child is so different, I love this . I Tried it with both my boys having to customize it as appropriate for that child.
Good Luck and hope this helps. As far as the accisents I think it goes with the looseness od it, I would let those slide, untill you figure out why they are so loose.
My first suggestion would be to get him into a pottying routine that HE understands. Instead of taking him every 60 minutes, have him go at certain times of the day that he knows.
For example, we go potty when we first wake up. Then again after morning snack. We'll go potty after playing with trains. We'll go after lunch, nap, and afternoon snack.
If you make pottying a routine, like all of his other activities, he's more likely to understand when it's time. He may start going himself without your reminders.
Pottying is a huge thing that kiddos like to be able to control. I've noticed with my own children, and the many others that I have trained, that if I back off a little and give them some time to understand the whole process and their bodies, it sometimes works out a little better.
That said, every child is different, so be patient, and good luck!
C.
no dont put him back in diapers mine was the same way my oldest. he couldnt sense the need to go poop. and it took him a long time to make the connection between the feeling and the action. is he stressed to make him go backwardson his peeing. if he complains that it hurts to pee he has a bladder infection and will explain the not peeing in the potty
During potty training expect a lot of laundry.
Pooping is something that takes a little bit of work. Even though to you and I it seems simple. The key is to catch your child in the act of pooping and hurrying them to the potty. After some time they should learn to catch it on their own. However with chronic diarrhea I believe that would even take more work.
I think your on the right track, the best thing you can do is get in the mind frame of not going back. Just keep up with it and expect to have more laundry. Good luck!
Check out these potty training tips...very helpful!
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I would stick with it, if you let him regress and put him back in diapers he will get the wrong idea. Try starting a sticker chart or some sort of reward system, so he can be excited about pottying again.
