Potty Training Help PLEASE!

I had a similar problem with my oldest,is your son constipated? My daughter was I hardly noticed until she started trying to use the potty,it was hard for her but she would go in the bathtub-her doc put her on Muralax and it really helped! Shes off it now and pretty regular,The doc said it was hard for her to tell she had to go til it was too late because she was so backed up(also the warm water helped) Hope this is not the case with your daughter but I just thought it might help if I shared my story with the terrible #2s!

My son did the same thing. For some reason the sound of #2 hitting the water in the potty scared him. I made it a game of waiting for the sound and then getting excited and it worked for me.

S.-
My daughter had almost this same behavior patter when she was about 3 to 31/2. The only difference that I think makes your situation a little harder is that mine would actually ask for a diaper and once I put it on her she would hide quietly, do her business, and come to me to be changed. We had made a big deal about letting her pick out her first nice "big girl panties" and she was adament about keeping them clean. One day I told her I forgot to get more diapers at the store and she would have to use the potty until tomorrow. With a little hand holding and lots of praise after, she never wore another diaper. Maybe, if you haven't, you could try the panty shopping thing with Lily.

Also, my daughter only used adult potties when we were out for a while. She's very small for her age like me and the big ones scared her for a while. I got a very small training potty that she could move and put wherever she wanted when she wanted to go in private. She was very private about going at first like your daughter and she liked being in control of that. She ended up leaving it behind the bathroom door and from there everything else just came naturally.

I know it's frustrating. It's good your remembering that she is only 3. Hang in there. I hope someone's suggestion helps.

C.

My daughter did the same thing. #1 was a breeze, but #2 took a bit longer. She would do #2 sometimes, but not consistently. I finally just let it go, I stopped talking about it, asking about it, etc. Finally a few months before she was 3 1/2 she did #2 in the potty a few days in a row and was completely trained. Children will do things when they're ready.

good luck

S.,

My oldest daughter who is 10 had the same problem. She too was very smart and still works 2 or 3 grades above grade level. I think we unknowingly put a lot of stress on her with the things we said, "you are so smart" etc..... She did the exact same thing...she would tee-tee on the potty, but not #2. The doctor finally guessed she must have been constipated at some point...(she was on occassion) and it hurt when she did #2. She too ruin underwear but not clothes. However, our doctor wrote a letter to her preschool and she was allowed to go with a change of clothes. Her preschool was only 1/2 day long so many times she would never have an accident. You might want to explore this option. We also decided to let her 'be' smart but also let her be 3 or 4....whatever her age was at the time. We had a tendency, because she was so smart, to treat her like she was older and more capable of things than she was. She was smart beyond her years, but we realized she was still the age she was (emotionally). She is 10 and at this point she is very mature in some situations and very much 10 years old in other situations. Just remember her age...she is 2(3)...she maybe very smart, but she is still three and that is still a 'baby' in a lot of respects. Explore these areas and in time it she will work it out. She is ONLY 2(3) years old. Don't let her intellectual ability make you forget she is 2(3). Most children aren't fully potty trained until 4 and many times later for night time. These children may be very smart, but emotionally they are their chronological age. Good Luck!

Mother to Caitlin (10), Colleen (8) and Chloe (5).

Hey S., sorry to hear about your problem but I have to agree with the other mother, she may be scared so try getting a little potty just for her to go poopy..another thing is that she may not want to go to camp or preschool and is doing this to keep from going. But try the little potty and try to get Jordyn to help out some...have her talk to Lily without you and see if she will tell Jordyn what is causing her to do this. There could be other things going on that your not aware of and sometimes kids will talk to other kids before they will talk to Mama..can't hurt to try! another thing, is she still going to daycare? Now is she 2 or 3?? Let me know how things go please and good luck!! D.