Okay, I know there is probably a lot of questions for Potty Training on here.
I have a 25 month old boy who has been going pee pee in the potty since he was 23 months old and also a couple of poops. He would more or less go whenever I put him on the potty and sometimes told me he wanted to go (rarely, though). But, now it is like he's boycotting the potty. He has been constipated a couple of times and we've treated that and it is gone. He has no problem being on the potty he just won't "go."
Any tips on how I can encourage him to go or whatever tips you may have. Thanks!!
Until now I have been using a potty attachment for our adult potty. Well, today we went to the store and got a "just his size" potty and he LOVES it and it doesn't take much coaxing to go. A step in the right direction.
This whole process started when HE told me he wanted to use the potty. It came completely out of the blue because I wasn't really expecting to start until 2.5 or so. He continues to be fascinated with the potty and is just starting to communicate in his own way. I don't push him and I make it as fun as possible. He will be completely done when he is ready.
S.:
I read an article which said that children weren't ready for potty training until they were carrying around things that were as large as they were. You have from two years old until they are three years old for potty training.
You still have time to potty train him.
P. S
When I potty trained both of my boys at age 2 1/2yo, I bought a bunch of hot wheel cars and put them in a bag. Each time they went to the potty, they got one. I was actually told this by my pediatrician. What she did was go to the dollar store and spent $10 and got various things. My boys just loved hot wheel cars, so I just did that instead. I hope this helps!
Hi S.! It sounds like your son isn't ready to be potty trained, especially since when he does go, it is because YOU put him on the potty. If I were you, I would back off on the training. He just turned two and that is still pretty early for training, especially for boys. My daughter didn't start training until a month before her 3rd birthday. Believe me, I wanted to train her before that, but I had to wait until she was ready.
A.
My son went through the same thing but I take most of the blame for it. When we initially started potty training he was excited then after my husband was laid off, we took several vacations and relied too much on pullups. Then when my husband went back to work and we back into a routine it was hard to get him to do either at the potty. He eventually came around. I took someone's advice of he will go when he's ready. I decided to that he would go in his own time and he has. It just took me not worrying about it and ease up on the pressure.
Good luck!
Please stick to it. You are doing too well to give up now. I just potty trained my 32 mos. old. I thought I could not do it before now because he was not talking well either. But I finially made up my mind and made him stay on the potty until he goes (When I know he should have to-dry pull up. He did not want to at first and we had a strong battle, For about 3 days. Then he saw that he was getting rewarded. We made it fun and now he can't wait to go sit on the potty. He is still not telling me that he has to go but if I put him on it every 2 hours he is staying dry. I know it will take a little while before he is fulling telling me when he needs to go. But at least he is dry. I just regret not doing it sooner. It is a huge step forward and so please don't go back. Keep it up. You can do it.
Give out stickers when he potty, make a chart with smiling faces for each day and at the end of the week, treat out with simple things like getting ice cream,or whatever he likes. Put a cherrio cereal in the toilet and let him aim at it. Get a cook timer and when the bell ring let him know it is time to potty every 30 minutes for the first or second week and than go to an hour when he get the hang of it.
Childcare provider and a mother of 3
Hi S.,
The first advice and possibly best advice to potty train boys is do not have any expectations, and patience, patience, patience!!!! With potty training,and most things in general, boys can be stuborn, and could careless what your agenda is. And after having fought 2 potty battles (10years apart) the best thing I could say is to find YOUR child's biggest motivation, weither that is Hot Wheels, making a game of it, or just not making a big deal about it (my youngest was completely trained when he started pre-k but went back to pooping in his pants after starting school, he was trying to get attention, so we stopped saying ANYTHING,not a word!!, to him when he had an "accident" and gave huge praises and rewards for having a "accident" free day). But every child is different, and you can best guess what will be his biggest motivation. Some ideas that we tried, and some worked others didn't, and some worked for a short time and then no longer did, getting Dad, grandma/pa to make him feel like a big boy, rewards (candy,toys,story time, money). Letting him play/read while there, but with this timing has to be good, the idea is that he will be distracted and go w/out thinking about it. And also watch him closely, when you see he is going, try to coax him to go, but most importantly do not force him to do it, this will only create a battle of the wills, just like with big men make him think it is all his idea;) And even with all the issues mine 2 gave me with potty training they were both fully trained before they started school, so relax, he will do it in his own time! HTH
A.
Hi S.,
I know that our culture really makes parents believe that we should be "training" our little ones to use the potty by 2 years, but unless you have to train him this early for day care, I highly recommend that you don't.
The majority of toddlers will start using the potty around 2.5-3 years old and it isn't unusual for boys to start much later - around 3, 3.5.
The earlier you start potty training, the worse the process can be for both mom and child unless the child has basically self-trained.
The best thing to do is to have the potty available and invite him to sit on it with his clothes or without. If your child starts having negative experiences with the potty and with the constipation already starting...these are not good signs that he is ready.
I know parents who have driven themselves crazy over the potty training experience for no reason. Your child is ready when he's ready and not before. If you're getting upset and frustrated with him over the potty, you're really putting a lot of stress on your relationship over something that doesn't need to happen until he's ready.
I'm sure you have relatives and friends who tell you that he "should" be potty trained by now, but please, put the psychological and physical development of your little boy first and tell them that he will use the potty when he's ready.
Put the diapers back on and put the potty chair away for awhile and enjoy your little toddler. Make this fleeting stage a good one without the stress. Parents want to control the 3 things in their children's lives that they simply cannot - sleep, food, and potty! Let it go.
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hi,
are you using pull-ups? if he knows that he has that to fall back on, he may just not want to bother. as soon as i got rid of the pull ups with my daughter, she went on the potty full time. my two sons never used pull ups, and went kind of cold turkey...there were a few accidents there, but they got it sooner or later. he is pretty young as far as boys go...good for you if he's ready, but you may find that backing off for a few weeks does the trick. good luck
I have a 2 year old who was potty trained by 20 months. He is now 2yrs 4mo. and does not wear a diaper at night. I was sure he wasnt ready, because he didnt talk very clearly. With lots of positive praise, like high fives. Singing and dancing, and especially bragging to friends and relatives. I would have him call Nana to tell her he went potty. Telling him, "ooh Daddy's gonna be so proud that you are going potty like a big boy. If dad is around have dad take him in there when he goes. Most boys want to be just like daddy. Look who's Talking II was a great movie that helped also. That's a great movie for 2 yr old boys and even older. Good luck. Dont stop, sometimes when the kids arent willing, we give up, but if we are consistant, eventually it just becomes routine.
