Potty Training Girl - Going Pee-pee in Underware and Doesn't Care

In her eyes the potty is starting to be a bad thing. Try to influence positive things with the potty. If she doesn't already have one, get her a little doll that pees. You can feed the baby water and show her how the baby sits on the potty and pees. Then get blow horn and party favors - every time the baby pees make a party.

Stickers are good too. Even if she sits on the potty she can get a sticker, and if she pees or poops then she gets to pick one of her favorite stickers. Princess, etc.

Good luck - always be positive.

C.

PT'g is the hardest thing I've ever done...wears you down, I know. My dd and I both were in tears by day 3, and then I quit. I waited until she was 2 years and 3 months and tried again. We started with panties and she didn't care if they were wet either. I tried treats, didn't work. I tried new panties - was just excited to put on new pair of panties when they got dirty. Prayed hard for an answer, then one afternoon at about 5pm, I felt the need to strip her naked from the waste down, put her little potty in the kitchen (quick clean up floor) and wait. As soon as I saw urine, we ran to the potty. By day 2, she was having ONE accident and by day 3, she was a pro. After a full week, I moved the potty to the bathroom and after another week, we transferred to big potty. Worked like a charm...strip her naked and catch her in the act. She'll get it...good luck!

Here is my story:

By my son Daniel's third birthday, we were all really ready for him to be potty trained, but he wasn't. He would neither go pee-pee nor poo-poo. NOTHING AT ALL!! I am talking about a very smart kid that knew how to count to 10 at 18 months, and could sing his ABC's by 2 1/2. So, as a parent, I expected this to be no different. WRONG!!
He became very ill after his 3rd birthday. It was three weeks of vomiting and diarreah and it ultimately put him in the hospital. Needless to say all of our potty training efforts were completely ditched during this time. The doctors said it could take a month or two before he GI system recoverd and we were told by our doctor to not try potty training for another month at least. A week after his last episold of vomiting and diarreah and NO PRESSURE FROM US, we noticed one day that his diaper was dry all day. At the time, we were worried there was something wrong, but he said, "No, I'm OK. I go in the potty now."

Moral of the story? Encourage them, but don't make a big deal of it like I did.
I think it is possible that so much pressure and expectaions are put on kids to potty train early that it could actually make them afraid to fail.
THE WHOLE GOAL IS TO MAKE IT THEIR ACCOMPLISHMENT, NOT THEIR FAILURE!!! Your kids can't control how soon they go potty any more than they can control how fast they will go through puberty.
I hope you can ditch the diapers soon....

Liz

I have the same problem & would love to hear any advice!!
My daughter's diaper rash is horrible, I put her in a diaper tonight.
I would be very grateful if you hear any suggestions.
Thanks

Ok, mine is not yet that old but I can share with you what my sister has done with her 3year old girl ...
1. let her pick her own panties at the store
2. let her pick out her own big girl potty (with guidance of course)
3. had "Panty Parties" where every hour on the hour she and mommy went to sit on the potty, even if no one had to go! it seemed to be more encouraging when no one went or when mommy didnt but she did etc.
4. the next round of "Panty Parties" were extended to every hour and a half, then two hours so on until there was a week straight of no "accidents"
5. she let her daughter set the timer, then she would fix it if needed.
6. she had a "potty companion" like a doll or something there is the "Potty Monkey" who comes with a book for mommy and a book for the little one and the monkey sits on his potty comes with a diaper and underwear the potty flushes and he talks ... www.angelinasuniquebabythings.com
7. then further down the road when she had accidents (if you dont remind them when they are playing they tend to not go) she took away juice and ONLY water or milk for the whole day! That helped a lot!

good luck what works for one does not work for all but there's what one mom found to work for her

My daughter is also 2 1/2 and while she is bowel movement trained, she can't seem to pee in the potty on time. We too have a new baby on the way and so I've decided not to push the issue. If you make potty training stressful for you it makes it that way for her and if she feels unsuccessful, she's not going to want to try. Sometimes kids feel like it's the only thing they can control and will use the bathroom inappropriately for attention (especially with a new sibling on the way). Also, she may just not be ready and that's okay too. She'll potty train before Kindergarten and that's really all that matters :) My son was extremely difficult to potty train and it was exhausting, frustrating and I felt like a complete failure. What finally worked was finding a reward he responded to. I put ALL the movies in the bathroom with a TV and that is the ONLY place he could watch TV and only if he used the potty successfully. So if you really want to train her, it might take more than a sticker system if you're using one. He didn't care if he was wet/dirty either. He could sit in it all day. So, I definitely feel for you and I wish someone had just told me to backoff until he was more ready.... which is what i'm doing with my daughter :)

Good luck!

She's just not ready yet is what I would guess. Go back to diapers & wait another 3 months. The average is something like 3.5 mo. for potty training- some earlier, some later- your little one may just be "later."

D.

We've tried everything with my daughter & I think we're almost there. FOREVER she hasn't cared if she was wet or dirty & it drove me nuts. I've found that taking her at 30 minute intervals (then increasing the time) worked well with going #1. However, she still doesn't care anything about #2. I've tried stickers, candy, treasure chest, going to the dollar store, ice cream, playgrounds, ect. to temp her into going. Still nothing worked for #2 and still hasn't - but feel free too try them all and maybe they will work for you. My doctor said that after all of that if she still doesn't want to do it, she isn't ready. He said to try it for a while (a week or so) and if she doesn't seem interested then stop for a few weeks then start again. He promises that she won't go to kindergarten in diapers and to just keep trying but take breaks in between. Also, my daughter starts to hold in her poop after a while because she doesn't want to go. She will just start pooping (in a diaper or panties) a little at a time for several hours or all day long. This can also be a big problem as I'm sure you know all about. Anyway, just wanted to let you know you're not alone & there is no magic fix. She will do it when she is ready so don't feel pressure because she will feel the pressure, too. However as a mother of a 3 year old, I know I am ready for her to be 'READY ALL READY'! :) Good luck!

My daughter just learned to potty trained in April and she is turning 4 at the end of this month. I know what you are going through. If she is in panties keep her there. Going back into pullups or diapers will confuse her. Doctors say not to do that. My daughter wouldn't care if she peed or pooed in her panties. I just kept asking her every hour and took her with me. We also did a reward chart. If she went to the bathroom so many times in one week we would go somewhere of her choice on the weekend. It took her about 2 weeks to start using the bathroom. Good luck and be patient.