ok my question is, i am trying to fingure a way to help my daughter with goin to the bathroom at night. sometimes she will go a whole week without wettin her bed with a pull up on,and then the next day she dose and she starts sayin "im sorry mommy im sorry", thinking she is goin to be in trouble. the things is our house is a rasied ranch and our rooms are down in the basement( they were built in to the house before she was borning) and she is afraid of the dark, right now there is a gate on her door at night cause there are somethings in the basement that she cant touch. she runs to the bathroom everytime she has to go to the bathroom during the day, and dose great at pre-k, how can i help her along and help her not to be scared of going upstairs to use the bathroom. there is a the basement light and the stairs light, i think she is afarid to go alone. we also have 2 cats that like to rough house at night which is why the door is shut, so should i leave it open for a few days and her gate and just see what she dose or leave all the doors open so she wont be scared, could use some good advise ould be very apperciated.
Another vote for a portable potty in her room, put a night light right by it and make it part of the routine in the morning to clean up.
Can she use a potty in her bedroom?
Try a portable potty in her room
Put a potty in her room for nighttime use.
A portable potty in her room and a nightlight.
Don't get mad or show anger if she wets her bed. That's most likely where she is learning to say "I'm sorry mommy, I'm sorry". It's not her
fault you live in a raised ranch home. Even if they are all on the same floor, kids have accidents ant they shouldn't be punished for them.
Be kind & loving. It goes farther.
Another vote for the portable potty downstairs.
Maybe not in her room though, how about out in the hall?
I take it she is only 2 or 3...of COURSE she doesn't want to go upstairs by herself! Heck, even *I* am a bit scared of the dark! lol
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I see 2 possible things here. Either she is sitting there awake and needs to go but is afraid to go by herself or she is sleeping and has an accident.
For the first one she does need to have access to a bathroom downstairs. It's nuts to not have a bathroom in the bedroom area. You might consider trying to convert a closet to a half bath. That way everyone wins.
If she's just having an accident then she needs to go to the bathroom as near going to bed as possible. She needs to still use a pull up and she needs to understand while she's asleep she has no control over peeing or not peeing. It's just something she needs to outgrow. Some kids wet the bed every single night and they're all the way up to teen age.
Since she is going several nights in a row and staying dry I think it could be a combination of both. Doing the portable potty down stairs until you can convert a bathroom is a good idea.
Keep the pullups and put a potty in her room
a potty in her room or nearby might work i guess...but i am with Glade on this one. huge red flag that it scares her and she apologizes when she has an accident. poor kid. i vote for pullups and laying off her for awhile. as someone else said, she's tiny. of course the scary basement terrifies her. my son is 6 1/2 and won't go into the basement alone.
bottom line either she's ready to sleep all night without going, or she's not. if she was ready to nighttime potty train she wouldn't need to potty in the middle of the night at all. think about it, the only time most of us get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, is maybe when we drink too much right before bed. kids are the same way. i say quit stressing about it, quit stressing her out about it. the common theme here seems to be that you are expecting quite a lot of a very tiny little person. give her a break.
thanks for the answers, but to one on here, glade, i dont yell at her or hurt her if she has a accident,that is mean and cruel and thats one thing im not, i dont know if my mother did when she watched her one night, but i cant ask her that cause she isnt here anymore, i can try the porter potty down stairs, the one thing she dose though, is when she is done she gose to dump it out and i dont want her to try and dump it somewhere, the female cat sleeps in my lil brothers room and my cat is shut in my room, i got the waterproof sheet cover for her bed hope that helps a little,
