My son is just 3 and we have been working on potty training for almost a year. In no way have I pushed the issue. Basically when he wants to go or I suggest that he might want to go. He does great all day at daycare but when he comes home its like he never had any potty training desire. Regardless of what type of reward system we have given him. When he goes to his dads he comes back with great diaper rash because he forgets to change him or ask him if he has to go...Its a never ending battle. I don't want to have 2 kids in diapers at the same time and am a little lost on how to get him to do his thing.
Pick a week that isn't hectic and make him wear underwear. It's hard.. but it's the fastest way.
I've also heard of putting a piggy bank on top of the toilet and putting 1 quarter in for pee and 2 quarters in for poo. Then once he doesn't have to wear diapers or pull-ups anymore, he can take it to the candy or toy store.
My son will be 4 next week and has only been potty trained for about a month. My pediatrician's son was 4 1/2. They are ready when they are ready. We are still dealing w/ poop issues now. My son refuses to use the toilet and I am very tired of cleaning it out of his underwear. I do know the more you push the more they resist.
we put our son in regualr underwear with charecters that he really liked. he felt like a big boy and didnt want to wear a pullup anymore. we told him though that if his charecter on his underwear got wet he would have to put his pullups back on. he wasnt going for the pullup so he started useing the potty more and more. if you are still talking to dad...have him do the same thing.
Try giving him incentive. Maybe if he gets rewarded for going it will make it easier. Make the reward something he really likes that he doesn't normally get. Also, there is a potty chair that makes music when the child uses it.
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Hi here's my suggestion... It's a copy/paste from a couple other requests I've responded to, but it really works like a dream!
Hi, my daughter started showing an interest at a very young age, (about 14 months) I let her sit when she wanted, but I never pushed the issue. Then at about 18-20 months she started crying and carrying on every time she messed her pull-up. So at 25 months I borrowed a book from the library called "Toilet training in less than a day" by Nathan Azrin and Richard Foxx. I thought it would be a bunch of nonsense, but I read it anyway. I liked it so much and believed it would work, maybe not in a day, but it did make sense, so I bought it. The next day we tried it, it's like a potty training boot camp. My daughter is so incredibly strong willed I was hesitiant about whether or not she would actually cooperate. With so many treats and rewards-just for that day though-she did really well. She went on the potty 4 times and had 4 accidents that day. The next day we went a little backwards. I was ready to give up, but we kept her in panties anyway. The following day she only had a couple accidents. We started on a Monday, and by that Thursday night she began a dry streak that lasted until Sunday afternoon. It's been four full months now and since that first week I can count the number of accidents on two hands. She was wet most nights before we trained, and now this is her first full week in panties over night. Her pull-up stayed dry most nights since we started, but there were still a few wet mornings. The main idea of this book is to teach them to teach a doll that wets how to use the potty. After they've taught the doll, it's time to start with them. They are allowed and encouraged as much to eat and drink as possible on the day of the boot camp, so make there more chances to have to use the potty. After they go on the potty chair it is there "responsibility" to dump the contents into the toilet, flush and resplace the bowl, wash their hands, and pull up and down their pants. When they have an accident it is also their "responsibility" to clean up the accident and to practice going from wherever they had the accident to the potty chair, pull down their pants sit down, stand up and pull their pants back up. It gives them a chance to really get used to getting to the potty in a hurry. I know this sounds harsh, but my daughter thought it was more of a game than anything. And after the results I've had, I would (and have) recommend it to anyone. I do home day care and I offered the book to one of my moms. Her daughter was in a diaper on a friday, and when she came on the following monday, she was in panties, and to this day has had one accident at my house. Anyway, sorry this is so lengthy good luck with the "Adventures in potty training."
I think a big part of the problem is with Dad.....push the issue with him. He needs to show your boy how to use the potty, not let him sit around in dirty diapers. His Dad is just lazy, at least that's what it sounds like to me. Tell his Dad that it's part of his job as a father to help raise him and you guys need to support each other in your ways of raising your son.
J.-my son is turning 3 in October and potty trained himself about 4 months ago. The thing that really helped was buying him fancy underware. He was really into Mr. Incredible, so his incentive was to wear the Mr. Incredible underware. We kept saying, you are almost ready for your undies, or, let me know when you are ready for Mr. Incredible undies. One day he simply said, I am ready. And we have only had a hand full of accidents since then. Good Luck!
PS I do get him up in the middle of the night for a potty break.
I think your son may be feeling your stress and the pressure to use the toilet and this is causing problems for him. I think you should look at what happens at daycare that works so well for him. I just finished training my son and I know that when he felt any pressure, even though I didn't think I was pushing it, he would regress. I also think you should make sure his father is on the same page. It could be very confusing for your son! Good luck to you and congratulations on your pregnancy!
As a mom of 4, 3 of them being boys. Boys are usually not ready until after the age of 3 - 31/2 to start training. Some won't be fully potty trained until closer to 4. Also when a new baby comes into the house some kids revert back to diapers. You might want to get use to the thought of having two in diapers. I have done it twice and its not that bad.
They have proven that most kids aren't really ready to do it until 3-3 1/2 years old. Any time you accomplish it before then requires a lot of work. My daughter just decided a few weeks after her 3rd birthday that she was ready and that was it. No accidents, no problems, no nagging, she was ready.
Best of luck,
J.
during the summer i finally got my son potty trained during the day.. naps and bedtime we till working on.. but i find if you put fruit loops or cheerios in the toilet and have him try to hit them or sink themm he seems more interested in it.. or tell him to make bubbles my son loves that... try awards if he goes he gets a treat or gets to go out to eat.. some dads just dont care or dont know how so this might be all up to you to train your son to go.. and sooner or later he will just go at daddys house also.... good luck let me know how everything turns out...
